Stop Searching for Your Passion (Do This Instead)

Four years ago I gave a TEDx talk called “Stop searching for your passion.” This is not news. I memorized every word of that talk. I delivered it in a room of around 1500 people. And I walked out of there and thought, “Ok! that was fun. I hope someone outside of that theater ever […]

The Key To Finding Your Quirk (And Trust Me, You Have One)

A few weeks ago, I told you to be wary of advice. Even mine. Why? Because it’s tempting to believe that if we just follow the right advice, we never have to make any mistakes. Ever. If your whole goal is to avoid mess, mistakes, and effort by stepping gingerly inside the footsteps of others, […]

Do You Know Why You’re In The Room? (You Should)

Look at your calendar real quick.  I bet you have stuff scheduled today, and several things this week, that involve being in a room, real or virtual, with other people. Some of those meetings are obviously work-related, because they happen in a conference room or conference call. Others are pretending to be fun (drinks!) but […]

Everything is Sexy (Kind of)

You don’t know HOW many times people have said to me that the biggest problem they’re having with messaging—no matter what it is—is that whatever they have to say (sell, promote, announce) isn’t sexy enough. But in fact, it is. Why? Because there is no such thing as a boring topic. If you think something […]

Beware of Advice (Even Mine)

There isn’t a person out there right now who isn’t dying to give you their opinion. Some will charge you for it. Most will just give it to you for free.  Your inbox is teeming with bits of advice, expertise—from your boss, your business partner, that guy you met at a networking event (who opted […]

Thinking of Quitting?

I went on my first solo trip abroad end of June, and spent a week in Florence—in 15th century Florence…which of course explains why I had no cell service.  OK fine. I had cell service. But. I feel like I time traveled, because I spent days immersed in the Renaissance. Oh, I was ALL UP […]

Mel Robbins says if you can count, you can change

Watching Mel Robbins take the stage last week at the Energetic Women’s Conference in Indianapolis was like seeing a rock star on the final leg of her tour. (She’ll be going off the road as she heads into production for her syndicated daytime talk show which airs this fall.) You probably know of Mel from […]

Your inner critic is a puppet master

Hey-o. I recently spent two days at a Gateless writing retreat that was part garden party, part creative brainstorm, part coven. It was wickedly fun.  I’m also trained in the Gateless Method, the goal of which is to slap a muzzle on the critical mind so that you can get dig deep down into the […]

I’m running late........ (In life.)

I’ve always been a late bloomer. I was born late, in October, making me the runt of the class litter. Last one to get my driver’s license. Last one to turn 21. Last one to have a boyfriend. Last one to hit a host of other teenage…

What Happens When You Call Someone Out (And You Should)

When I was a graduate student at Emerson College, I got a teaching fellowship and found myself for the first time teaching writing comp to a roomful of freshmen. And while I never met a captive audience I didn’t like, this group had its…

Do You Really Want It, Or You Just Saying That?

I spoke at a big design conference called How Design Live earlier this month for creative professionals (marketers, designers, writers) hungry for fresh ideas—and got to watch one of my heroes take the stage. Liz Gilbert. As in, Eat Pray…

I So Don’t Feel Like Doing Anything.

How are you? Feeling inspired, fired up, and ready to do stuff? Me neither. It doesn’t mean I won’t do anything. It doesn’t even mean I won’t like doing it when I get moving. But inspired to do things, before I do them?…

Can You See the Future? I Can't. I'm Near-Sighted. Or, Notes from HOW Design Live

I get annoyed easily and often, seizing on the most benign things with a kind of righteous anger. Like when people say, “hot enough for ya?” and “The thing is, is that” (WHY do we say “is” twice. WHYYYYY. Who started this? I want…

Some People Are Going to Hate You for It. Don't Listen.

A few weeks ago, I spoke at an event. The folks were lovely: Kind, friendly, considerate and welcoming. The talk I gave, on how to get beyond commodity, master your message, and stand out in a sea of sameness, was very well received and got…