At a business conference in Orlando a few years ago, we were given after-hours access to Epcot’s mission:Space ride. I squeezed into a space vessel the size of a bathroom stall alongside three women whom I’d just invited to connect on LinkedIn. Inside was a 3-D monitor, a control panel of blinking lights, and a set of […]

The other night, as we all hunkered down in our respective homes away from COVID-19, a friend told me she was going to stay in and “do some writing.”  Wait, what?  This woman had never, not once, expressed an iota of interest in writing!  As an office manager, she doesn’t have to do “content” for […]

How do you feel about the word “cute?”  Maybe it makes you think of babies or puppies or Hello Kitty backpacks. Small, harmless things. Or, miniature replicas of larger things.  Maybe “cute” to you is just shy of pretty and a few blocks from gorgeous. My friend, writer Becky Karush, believes cute is underrated.  Becky […]

People seem to have no problem voicing their desire to buy a good pair of jeans or go bird watching.  I detect zero self-consciousness from the person who tells me she wants to go see Mean Girls on Broadway. Or enroll in improv classes.  But.    When people want to write, they don’t say it loudly; […]

Two things I love about my friend Jenn Lederer: She’s got an open mind and sharp opinions. She’s cool with whatever you want to wear, do, pursue. “You do you, girl,” she says, waving her hand at everyone and no one. But don’t get her started on footwear. “Wedges? Fine. Clogs, cool. Tennis shoes ok. […]

The Zen Buddhists talk about beginner’s mind. Maybe you’ve heard it as ‘child mind.’ It sounds enlightened, to come at this with a clean slate, to adopt a beginner’s mindset in order to gain new insight. Cool.   But what about being … an amateur?  Oh god, we hate that. Please! We’re professionals! We’ve been doing […]

After I got laid off, I decided not to get another job. I just…didn’t want one. Simple as that. I decided to work on my own, from my couch. As a natural introvert, I was in heaven.  And yet—it became clear I had to get out of the house. So I signed up for an […]

When 20 of the nation’s top advisors walked into the room that morning, they probably thought we were about to debate the merits of logos and taglines. Nope. I told them to take out a pen, and I gave them a prompt: Write about a time when you realized that what you’d always thought was […]

Why Cuomo is a rock star right now

Howard Stern interviewed Gov. Cuomo recently. He asked him what he makes of all the fuss over him right now.  “Are you shocked by all this unbelievable outpouring of love for you? Are you just blown away by this? You’re on the cover…

What will you master next? What Dr. Shelley James asked me

COVID, and the way we talk about it (all of it) has become a kind of Rorschach test. Ask someone what they think of it, and you learn something about them.  Some say it’s a relief, a blessing, a balm. A much-needed reset button. A wake-up…

Unlock Your Creative Genius

“What inspires you?”  Ugh. This question. My problem with it? It assumes we need to be inspired to do a thing. Or worse, that we should feel inspired right now! I'm not.  Having free time can be incredibly inspiring—at first.…

Surrender doesn't mean what you think it does

As a rule, I’m a woefully impatient person. Put me behind someone on their first day of TSA precheck, and I will very possibly lose my cool. Someone blocking the exit at 42nd St. on the 2 train? Jesus, take the wheel.  And yet.  I’m…

One thing I'm NOT doing in 2020

Like you, I’ve made some sacrifices to the New Year gods—more vegetables, a month without booze. But one of the most important resolutions I’ve made for 2020 this: To stop selling shit on Craigslist. Why? Why’s that so bad?…

A holiday movie with a hidden message about career

​I just watched the new animated Netflix movie Klaus with some friends the other night, and if it's not in your holiday movie queue, it should be. Not just because it's cute and well done. But because there's a hidden and profound message…