Conan O’Brien is back in town (apparently to officiate a long-time staffer’s gay wedding), and of course, it’s hard to miss this fact when there are block-long billboards up near Times Square (my favorite being “The city that never sleeps welcomes back the man who never tans”), and you live a few blocks from the […]

This year, I dug out an old dress, this shimmery floor-length gown that I wore to a ball my senior year of college (still fits, thank you very much), threw on some wings, a halo, and elbow-length gloves, and voila. I’m an angel. Though I certainly didn’t behave like one. My friend Carina (rocking the […]

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It’s the easiest thing to drop from the to-do list, and the simplest thing to excuse yourself from doing: A creative thing for its own sake. Getting that (whatever it is–writing, painting, scrapbooking, model-airplane-making) onto your schedule, and fending off all other competing, and arguably more urgent issues, is easier said than done. And that’s […]

There are lots of nice-looking tomatoes out there, but if given the choice, I skip the conventionally pretty and go for the ugly-hot ones instead. Think Black-Eyed Peas over Black Swan kind of hot. You can find identical tomatoes that appear to have popped out of a factory any day of the week. But the […]

I looked around the office. Everyone was in their seats: The health editor was bent over a manuscript; the lifestyle editor flipped through blogs in search of her next story; the market editor hunted down gloves for an upcoming shoot. Normally, I would just keep myself planted there, to be part of the team, to […]

Last night I met a new friend for dinner at the John Dory restaurant on 6th. I had champagne and oysters on the brain, craving the alternating pleasures of crisp, toasty bubbles paired with the cool mouthful of salt and sweet oyster flesh. I had never heard of whelk (aside from Lawrence, kept fresh in […]

Today is my birthday. October 9th. It falls during the preliminary days of autumn when you don’t know whether to wear shorts or pack a sweater. The day before Columbus Day. And, in grammar school, marked the beginning of Fire Prevention Week, during which local firemen would come to Our Lady of the Blessed Sacrament […]

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She Who Hesitates Is Lost (Lessons from The Bachelor)

Ah, shit. I wasn't going to blog about The Bachelor. And while I hardly hold it up as the shining and global example of all romantic relationships, it's a pressure cooker wherein all cliches rise to the surface quickly, so let's pluck a few…

Online Dating Isn't a Threat to Monogamy--It's a Blessing

Online dating is revolutionizing all relationships -- whether you're dating or not. For most of recorded history women did not have romantic options. You married the dude who your family deemed appropriate, and he likely lived within a quarter…

4 Things You Should Do This Weekend If You're Single

Sure, you could spend the night watching Love, Actually and then sob into some leftover Shiraz. Or, you could actually do something fun and maybe even sexy. No, it does not qualify as even the lowest level crisis that you're not perfectly…

3 Assumptions Keeping You Seriously Stuck

You've got lots of reasons why you're not dating or meeting anyone new. And they all begin with the assumptions you make about yourself, other people, and the future. All of which are incorrect. Here are the three things you're sure you're…

Why Making New Friends Is Critical to Your Love Life

Meeting new friends isn't all that different from dating: You meet, and some kind of magic happens. You're drawn to each other, attracted even. Not in a creepy way. But in a very real way. You want to see her, hang out, get to know her.…

Hobbies Are for Losers

Hobbies are for losers. I say this because the people who are in it to win it, to do something real, something big, something life changing, don't call it a hobby; they call it their life. Of course our lives consist of things that we do…