The term “hoarder” has, you may have noticed, become subject to word inflation. And why? Because it’s catchy and current and everyone who shows even the slightest hesitation at parting with any single item or collection of items risks being called one. We may, half jokingly, eye our own piles and worry that maybe there […]

Well hello there. You made it. Over the rickety holiday bridge into the vast tundra of the new year, possibly the last year, if the Mayans have it right. I’m not all that worried about it. In fact, more of you are likely dreading something else–weight gain, or rather, a failure to lose weight gained […]

I’m a wimp around needles, but no stranger to acupuncture. I black out when I have blood taken, sure, it’s happened. But put me on an acupuncturist’s table, and my fear, like my stress, all but evaporates. And until you experience it for yourself, you probably won’t believe me. That’s fine. I have had a […]

I truly believe that every holiday begins with the best of intentions: To be kinder, more open, more interested, more engaged, more communicative. We go in thinking THIS is the year it’s going to be really wonderful. We produce Norman Rockwell-ized images in our minds of what our family could be, peering in at all […]

Hear that ringing? It’s the jingle jangle of holiday headaches. Ah, just listen to it all, the cacophony of nervous systems lit up like Christmas trees. Now, let’s figure out how to calm it all the F down. The best decision I’ve made so far in this holiday season is one I try to make […]

Don’t ask how I did it. But I did. Had my first ever g-free Thanksgiving. Thanks are largely due to my mother, who agreed to make a portion of her famous stuffing with gluten-free croutons. I’ve been GF for months now, on and off at first, and now fairly steadily with few (and regrettable) exceptions, […]

I used to work in an office where dogs roamed free. At one point, we had two rescued greyhounds who kept their post in the office of the production manager, an aging Boston terrier who held court in the art department, and a Bernese mountain dog who lolled at the feet of our editor in […]

I walked in on something happening in my own bathroom the other night. And I remind you that I live alone (save for a stunning tuxedo feline named Silas). A cockroach big enough to block traffic on West End Ave was hiding under the slats of my wooden bathmat. In fact, I would not have […]

3 Worst Reasons to Stay in Your Dead-End Relationship

There’s one thing holding you back from a fulfilling, fun, exciting new relationship. Your old relationship. I know, I know. You care(d) about this person a lot, and you haven’t found the right time or opportunity to do the breaking…

You'll Like Him Even More If He Goes Away for a Bit

Romantic getaways have their place. But let me ask you this: When's the last time you actually went away without him for a bit? If you haven't booked a vacation solo or with friends, you need to do that. Plan to be away, for at least a weekend,…

Are You F'n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee Incident

Living in New York City, you're going to get a heaping dose of crazy on an almost daily basis. It's just how it is. It's inconvenient, annoying, but it usually doesn't get violent--especially if you don't engage. For the past three years,…

Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain't Nobody Got Time for That

If you’re holding off on dating until you’ve lost the weight, bought better clothes, or are awaiting the arrival of a brilliant future version of yourself, you’ve set the worst goal ever. Because it’s not a goal. It’s a slippery slope…

"I'm Going to Just Focus on Myself" & Other Lies

If you’re thinking of taking a break from dating “to focus on yourself,” you’re doing yourself a big disservice. You’re also lying. Why? Because this is little more than fear dressed as empowerment. Sure, it sounds like a well-thought…

How to Get A Guy to Commit (If That's What You Want)

You think that the man (or woman) you like will never commit to you, because he can’t or won’t, or both. And that you’ll never, ever be able to find a man who will commit to you, because men suck and then you die. Ok. Rewind. A woman…