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There once was a woman from Fargo who married herself. It’s true. She’s not the only one, either. But let’s stick with Nadine, who was featured on the Anderson Cooper show a while back. She did what she thinks was a cute, quirky thing that I’m sure she knew would get a lot of attention, and that would seem to “mean” something, but to my mind it’s no different than when chicks get the yoga symbol for peace stamped on their low back, and think it makes them “deep.”

Fact is, Nadine actually undermined the single movement in this little ceremony (which is what I told Anderson myself). When you get married, you’re not single anymore. Nadine has effectively removed herself from the dating pool, since she’s married to herself. She’s opting out of being single. She doesn’t get the benefits of either being married or single. Plus, she’s buying into the idea that you need to be married to be complete. And you don’t.

(And, if you are married to yourself AND dating whomever you like, as Nadine seems to imply, is your marriage one of convenience, until someone better than, well, you comes along?)

Look: I like the sentiment here: She decided to stop waiting around for some ideal mate and embrace her life and herself, and stand on her own. OK, fine. But: Please don’t tell me we now all need to have a ceremony to do this. Please. I thought one of the great hidden benefits of being single was NOT having to spend thousands of dollars on a single day’s event. To be fair, if you decide to marry yourself just like Sue did in the TV show Glee, or you’re waiting for that special someone to come along, it may be in your best interest to do some research into finding the best dress. The decision may not be easy. If you are looking for inspiration, to visit site click here. No matter who you end up marrying, if you’re happy, that’s all that matters.

Full Disclosure

Fact is, I actually had a dream myself years ago that I was getting married: I was in white dress, carrying red roses (reminiscent of my private all-girls’ catholic high school graduation where grads take to the aisle in a white dress, something that always raised some flags for me). And in the dream, there was no man, nor was I waiting for one–and that was just fine with me. I call this metaphor. I call this A DREAM. I didn’t run out and start printing invites.

What About the Real Single Issues?

Now, let’s get one thing straight: Nadine isn’t marching on Washington to make her marriage legal–it was a ceremony, not a civil rights statement. I’m guessing, anyway, from the footage we see in the segment in which she kisses herself in the mirror, takes herself out for Indian food, and then home for a candlelit bath (all great things, though I don’t call that a date. I call it living).

I wish the segment showed less of Nadine talking to herself in her rearview mirror, and more expert insight, from someone like Bella DePaulo, PhD, about the reality that singles face in our culture–and not having a wedding day is the LEAST of it (a cogent argument she makes in her must-read book Singled Out).

All in all, I think Nadine took an empowering and timely sentiment, and put clown makeup on it. My fear is that what could be seen as a brave, symbolic step in theory ends up sheer spectacle in practice.

And you now, it’s too bad–because more and more people are realizing that there are many ways to live a life well outside the confines of traditional institutions (like, ahem, marriage). So, then, why take a fresh, inspiring message and cloak it in exactly that?

My 3 Strategies for Single Peeps

If you happen to be single and needing some support, here’s some advice I offered on the show. (Also featured on the Anderson site complete with pics of sad looking ladies)

Stop singing the same tired song. You know the song: “There’s no good men out there,” “I’ll never find anyone,” “I’m a failure because I don’t have a partner.” What story do you keep telling people and why? I guarantee it’s getting you nowhere fast. Focus on what you want now, not what happened in the past.

Tell family and friends to back down. Make it clear to them that you love them and appreciate their support, but your life is not a problem to be fixed. You have to lay down the law. And realize that if you’re making choices for other people, you’re not living your life. You’re living theirs.

Redefine single: Broaden your perspective. As a single person, you have the ultimate and enviable freedom of connecting with whomever you want! It doesn’t mean being a hermit. Figure out what it is you really want—and stop using fear as an excuse to not pursue meaningful connections with other people.


Want to put yourself out there but loathe the thought? Check out my online webinar, Stop Hating Start Dating. I’ll change the way you think about dating.


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Breakfast is served.

Smoothies are huge. Easy to see why. How else can you get down several servings of fruits and veggies first thing in the am?

I record these tips for Martha radio on Sirius XM, and what’s the one that elicited emails across the country? The Drink Your Greens tip–about how to make a green smoothie. Everyone wants to know how to do it.

The Art of Improvisation

Here’s the best thing about doing the smoothie thing: You really don’t need a recipe. Period.

I have books of recipes and I love the Whole Living smoothie app, but have I followed one of the recipes to a T yet? Nope. That’s because smoothies are the best when they’re improvised.

Also, they’re incredibly forgiving. So it’s hard to mess up. Doesn’t taste right? Too tart? Muddy? Bland? Back in it goes, add a few more ingredients, and blend it again. Easy peasy.

There are no real measurements here. You go by feel. But if you are panicking without a measurement, then assume around half a cup of each fruit, and then I just jam in as much spinach or kale or whatever as I can.


Ok, so you need a blender. Duh. This year, I invested in a Vitamix (and am obsessed with it), and it was worth every penny. This machine is so powerful that if you slapped wheels on it, you could take it on the highway. I have no relationship with the Vitamix, mind you. But if you have the opportunity to get one, and you’re interested in healthy eating, smoothies, and all that, GET IT. Other blenders really can’t touch it.

Here are some recipes I’ve been playing with:

Kitchen Sink Smoothie

(I just jam whatever deliciousness I have around the house, like:) 

frozen mangos

frozen grapes

frozen blueberries

three chunks of ginger*

a few chunks of green apple

Scoop of green powder stuff (I happen to have Amazing Greens, but there are so many out there and I like that it gives the smoothie a little added nutritional oomph)

1 tsp chia seeds (again, not vital, but chia is all the rage, and has a ton of great stuff in it)

Juice of half a lemon

Some water (again, maybe half a cup? i go by feel–you can always add more to change consistency)

Spinach – jam in what fits.


Berry Green Ginger Smoothie (I made this up)

1/2 c. frozen blueberries

1/2 c. frozen raspberries

4 little chunks of ginger (which I chunk up and freeze so it’s always ready)

handful of spinach

1 tsp chia seeds

1 tsp (or so) of ground flaxseed (if you have digestive issues, trust me, you need this)

1/2 c. (or so) of brewed green tea (which helps soften up the frozen stuff so it blends easy, plus adds more powerful antioxidants)

1 organic green apple, chunked up


That’s it! Take that baby for a spin. DELISH. I would have added lemon juice, but didn’t have any. So I doubled up on ginger. You need that tartness/brightness to make the smoothie really sing. Otherwise, it can taste sort of…muddy.

Happy blending, folks.



No, I’m not kidding. Why not? Reading some juicy bits may be the best decision you make all day. In fact, I’m sure of it. Not only is the sexy series by British mum E.L. James on fire, it’s just plain fun. It’ll get all pistons firing in the biggest sexual organ of all: Your brain.

Don’t be fooled all the hubbub about it setting the feminist movement back 50 years (we have the Republican party for that!). It’s quite the opposite.

If you immediately jump to the conclusion that any situation in which a woman gets tied up and spanked is a “bad” one, then you haven’t done any real thinking about this, and you certainly haven’t read it (is my guess). I invite you to do both now.

As soon as I saw the stir happening back in March, I knew I wanted to dive in (um, who wouldn’t?), and was more excited about reading it than the novel I was currently reading (sorry, Wind-Up Bird Chronicles–I’ll be back). I just had to toss that quiet novel aside the minute this sexy bitch rolled in.

Why are we so uptight?

What really threw me was how up in arms everyone got over this thing (witness the ridiculousness on this clip on the Today Show–especially when there’s untold volumes of erotica collecting dust on shelves and no one’s talking about it really. But of course–this was just soft enough to gain widespread appeal, and yet risque enough that it would titillate and disturb polite company.

Our culture is so incredibly screwy about sex from websites similar to that even talking about a fictional fantasy makes us fear that something’s wrong with us. Anyone who thinks a bodice-ripper is going to singlehandedly create a cultural crisis is high.

Why does Dr. Drew suck so bad?

Dr. Drew, whom I like less and less, was featured in that Today Show clip. And he hadn’t even read the book. Enough said. He works himself into a tizzy about what a symptom this is of a troubled culture…and then, in an attempt to find some explanation of how this is acceptable (um, aside from it being a free country and the book being entertainment?) is its use as “female Viagra.” He essentially says, “yeah well, if you’re perimenopausal and need something to kickstart your libido, then sure.”

Gee, thanks Drew. THAT is one of the most insulting things I’ve heard. It makes it “her” problem. Like she has glaucoma and the book is an excusable instance of marijuana (not a good idea for everyone, but oh sure, let them use it). In fact, while we can argue about the quality of the writing in Fifty Shades (eh) and whether it deserves to make history as a work of literature–I won’t. I don’t care. That’s not why I read it, and probably not why you will, either.

Couples all over the country, especially those with sex drives that are pretty much in park, are waking up from their 100-year naps and getting down and dirty again and WHAT IS NOT TO LOVE ABOUT THAT? With all the fears around the ‘crisis of marriage,’ divorce rates, and low libido, etc, you’d think that ANYTHING that inspires and feeds a passionate connection between two people, especially two married people (though of course that’s not a prerequisite) would be applauded.

No–because Americans freak out about sex.

A Voice of Reason

Also featured in the Today show segment was sexologist Dr. Logan Levkoff, who injects some sanity (thank God) to the inane discussion being fueled by Dr. Drew and Savannah Guthrie (who seems so seriously troubled by the book, and yet why can I imagine it tucked into her nightstand?). She tries, but fails, to push back against the other two who are trying to make this about what sick f*cks we are.

In Levkoff’s blog on HuffPo on Fifty Shades of Grey, she makes this key point:

“…We don’t control how and if we turn on to something or someone. We may not desire to have fantasies about losing control, but many of us do. It doesn’t make us bad women or bad people. It doesn’t even say anything about our psyche or whether or not we want to “lose control” in our own lives…And in the case of “Fifty Shades,” if it got you hot and bothered, it got you hot and bothered. That’s about it; there’s no underlying psychological issue here. This is not about feminism or the demise of the women’s movement.” (Read more of her blog)

Why BDSM is not about violence against women

The desire to give up control during sex, to be dominated (which is one of the most common fantasies for women) is NOT to give into a life of domestic violence (I’m looking at you, Dr. Oz audience member who said this dopey thing on the show).

You don’t have to dig too far into the BDSM literature to understand that it’s not just about “I hurt you and you’ll love it.” It’s about negotiating boundaries. A submissive, in fact, has all the power–that’s how she (or he) is able to GIVE IT UP. Are we missing that?

The disturbed but undeniably hot Christian Grey isn’t trying to force Anastasia, the book’s protagonist, into doing what he wants; he’s begging her! He gives her the paperwork so they can discuss it and amend it how she wishes. He basically follows her around on his hands and knees begging for her submission. And even if and when she chooses to surrender her power, he knows it’s hers to begin with.

Does that sound like an abusive relationship to you?

What Dr. Oz has to say about it

Dr. Oz devoted not one segment, not two, but AN ENTIRE SHOW to Fifty Shades, interviewing couples and experts about why they love it, and why it works. It’s all about the human brain: As we read about Anastasia Steele and her naughty adventures with the stunning billionaire, our mirror neurons fire, he says, sending electrical signals, sending them thru the spinal column down to the pelvis. Blood flow increases and engorgement occurs, and the glands kick into gear. Physical signs of arousal reinforce our desire to have sex. And sex begets more sex. This can be seen in films from websites similar to shemalehd.

Is Fifty Shades Really JUST Fantasy?

Levkoff and others keep coming back to the point that it’s not the bondage–it’s the imagination. OK fine. But even that seems to be sidestepping the fact that this doesn’t just stay a fantasy. I would hazard a guess that stores like The Pleasure Chest are seeing a pretty big spike in sales. I met a woman recently who teaches workshops to women on EXACTLY how to do what’s in the book. And her attendance rates are way up. I’m pretty sure people don’t just want to read about it. They want to try it.

I’m just waiting for someone to accidentally asphyxiate themselves so that the media can fly into a frenzy about how Fifty Shades is killing people. (Please be careful when trying at home, people!)

Why you haven’t seen the end of BDSM

With more and more women earning their degrees, making more money, building careers of influence and power, and realizing that they have quite a bit of say in their lives, it makes total sense to me why giving up control is a dreamy and desirable fantasy: because what would be more amazing than finding a man who is in fact man ENOUGH to take over for a while? Especially in the bedroom.

In fact, I imagine that the more power women have in our culture, the more this fantasy will grow. I also find some humor in the idea that the book fetishizes a man being in control. (Does anyone else find that funny?)

I for one am thrilled that ANY book would get such attention. Millions of Americans are doing two things that previously, they might not have done for months, or years, at a stretch:

Reading books and having sex. Maybe even simultaneously. Multitasking just got a lot more interesting.

Click to watch the Today Show clip

So, not too long ago (a few weeks?), I was featured on the Today show for a piece on the joys of living alone.  I’ve been living that way for about a decade, and loving it–and I’m certainly not alone in that respect. One of the experts showcased for this segment was sociologist Eric Klinenberg, who has a new book out, Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, in which he explores what’s been called the biggest demographic shift since the Baby Boom–the huge increase in the number of people who live alone–31 million to be exact, making it more common than any other household unit, including the nuclear family.

However. I will say, I was disappointed with how the live-alone trend was and has been depicted. Why? Let’s take the Today show clip for example. Look–I know my place. I was an anecdote for the piece–a single illustrative example of the trend, and raw material for the producers to draw on to add color and concreteness to the story. I was psyched about that–yes! I get to share real insight into the real reasons why people love this and why it’s so important.

What Was Cut (and Unfortunately Wasn’t)

But as you can see, out of my hour-long conversation with the producer (a very lovely guy in fact), what remains is footage of me feeding my cat and sitting on my couch looking idle while Ann Curry narrates that I’m open to meeting someone with whom to share my living situation–making it seem that my choice is provisional at best. The exact OPPOSITE of what I wanted to connote. This is how it goes–it just is what it is. It’s like the Today show already KNEW what it wanted (single woman feeding her cat) and went about answering its own questions. I don’t fault them–they have to deliver what the viewing audience half expects. And that’s what they did.

What really pushed it over the edge for me was where the segment also pulled some tweets from people on living alone, and if they pulled the very best they could find, it saddened me that “eating ice cream in the tub” and “having the tv to myself” were the stand-out responses. Really? Really?

Of course, I’m not all that shocked–I know the process and not in my wildest dreams did I think I’d get more than a breath in, just was hoping it was more than denouncing “crazy cat lady” as a raging insult. (Duh.) But like anyone who’s had their best efforts left on the cutting room floor, I was a bit disappointed that none of the more insightful or even fresh responses to questions like “What is the benefit of living alone” and “why do you prefer it to any other arrangement” made the air.

My concern here, by the way, isn’t “Why didn’t I get to showcase how brilliant I am” but more like “I wanted to elevate the discussion and talk about something other than my cat!” There was an opportunity here to help speak for the many thousands of people who live alone and are tired of being put in the quirky box. Because that’s what this segment basically did: Made people who live alone out to be people who are really selfish about their TV remotes and really weird about ice cream.

Can we not do better than this? I think we can.

Being Social Isn’t Compensatory Behavior for Living Alone–It’s Called Having a Life

I don’t think most people who live alone are quirky–and I hate that this is the portrait painted of them. That they are so “weird” they can’t have anyone else around. As if being married, coupled, or otherwise, with other people around, is a normalizing factor? I doubt that. (Has anyone seen most people’s dads? Sorry dads.)

One of the producers at Today did a blog post on living alone, and while it’s fun and lighthearted, she mentions that to fend off loneliness, she “carefully plans social interactions” — which makes it sound as if engaging in social activity is a band-aid to the mortal wound of being alone. I kind of see it as, well, having a life.

It’s the reverse if you ask me: The world is so overly and deeply connected, there’s almost no escape, even when are your home’s only occupant (have you ever tried to get any focused work done with your email open or texts buzzing?). I don’t connect in order to avoid loneliness–I see my home as a trap door away from a world of hyperconnectivity. It’s my stay against insanity.

The Introvert / Extrovert Thing

The differences in how we perceive our connections and our aloneness has, I think, a lot to do with our introvert/extrovert tendencies. And by that I don’t mean socially inept v. overly friendly (those are wrongheaded ideas about what those terms mean), but more along the lines with what Laurie Helgoe, author of Introvert Power, told me: Extroverts are like solar panels, getting their energy from exposure; introverts are more like rechargeable batteries–they need to plug in and power down to store up our reserves.

That said, introverts may not only perhaps be more likely to seek out a living-alone situation, but may fare better than someone who’s both extroverted AND perhaps finds herself alone when it wasn’t her choice (as seems to be the case with that producer).

Regardless, I will say that while an extrovert may see her socializing as a way to relieve the burden of being alone, and she may experience it that way, I just am not crazy about what that says or assumes about living alone–that we have to make efforts to “plan our social interactions” otherwise we’d drown in a pool of sorrow. Not so! I connect online and go out and connect with people in person–not because “I live alone and I have to do this” but because that’s what living IS.

Why Live Alone? I’ll Tell You

Here are some of the benefits of living alone–and none of them involve eating food at odd hours:

Peace and quiet. If you want it, when you want it. You can always open up your social channels and your front door and let the world in, but you can also shut them out.

A better appreciation for the people in your life.  One of the experts in that segment, a journalist I think, was quoted as saying that living alone magnifies your personality. I’m thinking this was taken out of context and I’m not sure I get it. In fact, I think it does the opposite–it makes you very aware of who you have in your life, who you want in your life, and why. Because when your default is a room to yourself, you are in the wonderful position of choosing who you will keep in and who you will leave out–and why. (Those who don’t make this choice are, I think, fearful of something else, perhaps of cutting ties even with jerkoffs for fear of being left alone.)

Room to develop, cultivate, and create. I fully believe that I’m a better friend, lover, colleague, etc, when I am able to live on my own terms. I can cultivate and address my needs and feel restored and ready to connect with someone else–and I feel that I do so more richly because I have something to bring to that relationship: my best self.

Not only that, but there has been documented research showing that groupthink really doesn’t hold a candle to focused individual work. I have the benefit of living and working in my own little bubble, and I realize not everyone does. But even if you do work in a shared and open work environment, having the space at the end of the day not only to decompress but do some focused creative thinking can be the most productive work you do all day. (Check out this piece in the New Yorker by Jonah Lehrer on individual work vs. group think from earlier this year.)

Do I ALSO like having the option of housecleaning naked so I don’t soil my clothes? Sure. But the tree of solitude bears far more fruit than what two-minute morning show clips will ever show you. That I promise you.

(P.S. I will add that I never–ever–said or implied to the producers that my living situation was a kind of provisional state, a holding pattern until I “someday meet someone”–and yet that is also what they say in the segment. Could it be that I do decide to one day share my living quarters? Possibly. But that’s different than acting as if my home now is some kind of perch I’m clinging to until some winged beast comes and frees me from my loneliness. I’m pretty sure living alone is, in itself, a way to really spread your wings.)



This conference is a beast.

Want to know what’s new and noteworthy in the exploding universe of consumer products and services all geared toward the health-minded shopper? Me too. And not just because I’m one of them.

I spent last weekend at the famously gargantuan Natural Products Expo West out here in Anaheim, CA–I’ve been coming here more years than not for the past eight. Which means I should have known better than to wear heels the first day. Anyway. Moving on.

This place is like five airplane hangars long. It’s hall after hall of food, beauty, supplements, ingredients, gadgets, remedies, hype. It’s geared to industry folks: retailers, buyers, marketers, sales reps, journalists, editors, etc. Big decision makers, big characters, even some big celebs, have walked its endless carpeted floors.

It’s essentially an organic products Disneyland (which is about right given it’s in Anaheim),

Dr. Andrew Weil caught unawares outside the show floor.

where the products you know and love from the shelves of Whole Foods come to life: You might spy Annie Chun of the just-add-water boxed noodle soups, in the flesh, or Burt of Burt’s Bees in a sales meeting. I spotted Dr. Andrew Weil in a low profile moment, just standing amongst the crowd with his totebag of stuff. I even got my pic taken with Bob of Bob’s Red Mill in his standard red jacket. There are models and fitness pros and people dressed up like pandas. Don’t even ask.

Rather than overwhelm YOU now with too much info, I wanted to distill down some of the interesting products and trends that caught my eye.

I have also rated some of the newer products according to my totally made-up rating system of 1-10, 10 being great.

Here’s a quick visual tour of some of the stuff I saw:

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Gluten Free Everything

Gluten free was THE buzzword in food (even in some beauty products) this year. I mean, I’ve seen the g-free train coming, but man, did it roll through in flying colors.

Two brands worth noting:

Purely Elizabeth, a brand I like and a woman I like! I’ve had Elizabeth on my show and am a big fan of what she’s doing. Her products, quite simply, rock the g-free house.




1-2-3 Gluten Free Family owned–a g-free family that is. I was impressed with taste and texture of their baked goodies.


Water, Water Everywhere

Coconut water? Please–that’s so two years ago. Though the heavies and the newer coco brands were there in force, they made their biggest splash in previous shows and we are all saturated in it. Moving on from that.

A few other new brands are really working the water angle, though–big time. I mean, not just any old water, but water infused with everything from antioxidants to other vitamins and minerals like potassium as well as electrolytes. A few were crazy enough to get a second look–either in their approach, or in their branding. Including:

Blk water (pronounced, as you see it B-L-K), touted as “The Dark Side of Water.” Oooh. Sexy. And the packaging IS sexy and intriguing. And while it looks like it’s going to do crazy things to your tongue, well, don’t get too excited. What makes this water the color of Coke, essentially, is its infusion of electrolytes, antioxidants, and 77 trace minerals, which, I’m told, change the color of the water naturally. Even the guy working the booth admitted that it was a buzz kill. You raise the liquid to your lips and you can’t help, from years of soda-instilled training, to think it’s going to be sweet and zippy. It’s water. You just have to take them at their word that there’s something special there.

Cool factor: 8

Reality factor (would I really buy/use this): 4


Victoria’s Kitchen Almond Water I appreciate a no-gimmicks, straight-up approach to product. (Though I also appreciate a good gimmick.) This does play up the “trust me my grandma made it” feel, but I liked it–and think the taste was quite refreshing. The company says it’s just almonds, pure can sugar, and “100% pure Grandma love.” If you’re not a fan of coconut, or want something different, I’d recommend checking it out…also think it’d be FAB in cocktails.

Cool factor: 6

Reality factor: 8


Mayesa All Natural Premium Cacao (drinkable chocolate). You may think this is some kind of chocolate milk, but it’s not chocolate flavored anything. It IS chocolate–in drinkable form. Lactose, dairy, and gluten free, and loaded with antioxidants, magnesium, theobromine, even fiber. AND the tetra paks they use are constructed of cardboard from a managed forest, making it more sustainable than most. This is about as guilt-free as it gets.


Cool factor: 8

Reality factor: 8


Crazy Woman Water The only that stopped me cold was the name–of course. Who wouldn’t. There’s absolutely nothing I can say that made this water any better than any other, except that it’s good tasting water, named for the mountain in Wyoming’s Big Horn National Forest where the water comes from. And that the charming piece of folklore behind the name is one in which a woman watched her family murdered by Sioux warriors, murdered four of them with an ax, and then put their heads on stakes to keep the others away. Isn’t that sweet? I also found it interesting that their booth at the show was manned solely by men.



Common Good and Co. This simple, beautiful line of housecleaning products was started by former prop stylists (one of whom turns out had worked with at Martha Stewart) with a passion for eco-friendly goods. Their goal: to help people pare back on plastic and toxic chemical use. So the mission of this brand is quite apparent: Clean, simple, waste-free, biodegradable packaging and house cleaners that are free of toxic junk. What makes this whole system special is that it can be dispensed in bulk from the place where you buy it. Meaning: Once you use up your soap, you bring the bottle back where you bought it to fill it up again. LOVE THIS.

Cool factor: 10

Reality factor: 8



Broo Shampoo A line of smart-looking, all-natural personal care products created by a sweet Asheville, N.C. couple, Brad and Sarah, who wanted a better all-natural shampoo. At first, they poo-pooed the idea of brew for their do’s, but have created what I thought was one of the most interesting beauty products at the show–not just in their approach but in their striking brand look and appeal. It’s not girlie, and it’s not gross–it doesn’t smell like a barroom (and neither will you). But it has all the good-for-your-hair ingredients without the pthalates, sulfites, and preservatives of conventional shampoos.

Cool factor: 8

Reality factor: 7



ON: Natural arousal oil for her This stuff is bound to set people abuzz in more ways than one. A proprietary blend of natural ingredients gives On its unique sensation. It’s not one of those warming lubes–and in fact, is not a lube at all. It’s meant to increase a woman’s sensitivity in her sweet spot and stimulate natural lubrication–and you only need a tiny drop, which I put on my tongue, as instructed (since for obvious reasons you can’t try it out the way it was designed to be use, right there at the booth). And holy banana. My entire mouth began to tingle and, as they say, buzz. Don’t ask how they do it. I am kicking myself for not buying a bottle at the show. But you can buy it on their site. I believe it’ll be available at GNC soon. (In fact, my only concern is that their website could use some work–the content, the voice isn’t quite there yet, and doesn’t capture or resonate with what an amazing product this is.)

Cool factor: 10

Reality factor: 11



Travel Bed Bug Spray from Nature-Cide. Paranoid travelers, set your hearts and minds at ease. An all-natural, nontoxic solution for killing AND warding off bed bugs, wherever you may be. The question is, if you find yourself in a hotel with bed bugs, are YOU going to feel fine just spraying them and laying back down or would you rather have a steam cleaner at hand to deal with those bugs? And if you spray as a preventive measure, well, will it matter if you’re only there a night or two and the only one who could bring them in is you? That’s a practical issue that I haven’t had answered. Suffice it to say, I imagine that you just feel good knowing you go in armed. (If you want to really gross yourself out, watch this demo video of bed bugs killed on contact. )


Cool factor: 8

Reality factor: 6


C3 For Stress C3, which stands for Calm, Cool, and Connected, is a supplement powder that you add to water and it effervesces into a very drinkable tonic to help you soothe and support your stress-addled body and mind (note: it does create a slight numbing sensation on the tongue, but this is perfectly natural and subsides). This herbal cocktail contains a range of vitamins and minerals, as well as kava root, jujube seed, white peony, and milk thistle to name a few. We’re just starting to get the idea that we need to actively support our systems to become more resilient against stress–and while I don’t think the answer to coping comes in a pill, bottle, or packet, I do think that tools like this can help enforce other positive lifestyle choices.

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Reality factor: 7



Veria ID Innerdosha Natural Hair, Skin & Body Care I checked out the new line of personal care products from–and this is interesting–the lifestyle channel and site Veria Living (and Veria TV). I liked the clean, friendly look and feel of the line–they smell and feel great too. The idea behind Ayurveda, which hails from India and is the oldest system of health care on the planet, is that we all have a dominant dosha or type, (vata, pitta, kapha). When we know it, we can then take measures to help balance our constitution–through food, exercise, and yes, personal care. I thought the kapha line in particular smelled divine. Take the quiz to find out your dosha.

Cool factor: 7

Reality factor: 6

Natural Products Expo East will be held in Baltimore in September and Expo West, in Anaheim usually in March.

Would you date this bread-eating man? Photo courtesy of and Ambro

I was just featured in a story (“Single, Sexy, and Gluten-Free”) that made the front page of for a spell (second to the breaking news about the prostitution ring) on a topic so seemingly miniscule that I can’t even believe it merited a whole story: Gluten-Free Dating. I was like, is that even a thing? Turns out, it is.

Simply put: There are lots of single people out there. And, incidentally, lots of them have pinpointed gluten as the culprit of their digestive and other woes. But just because you opt out of some choices on the menu doesn’t mean you can’t go out to dinner with a dude, right? Of course not.

But the reason this is a thing, if it even is, speaks to a larger trend and its ensuing questions–what role do the (massively growing number of) food sensitivities play in our lives–not just in the kitchen, but out on dates? What do they say–and not say–about us?

What’s the problem?

Some of the women DNAinfo reporter Serena Solomon interviewed (and some I’ve spoken with) say yes, they are concerned that if they’re on a date with a gentleman (or lady) and they break out the roster of “foods I can’t eat” at a restaurant, the eyes will roll. But remember how people used to roll their eyes at vegetarians 15 years ago? Now, it’s just a fact: Some people don’t eat meat. And nowadays some people don’t eat bread, pasta, beer, or any of its yeasty cousins.

Truth be told, I have not found that this has put any kind of dent in my social life, and hasn’t so much as raised an eyebrow from any of the gents with whom I’ve shared a meal. (In fact, one even went out of his way to seek out gluten-free restaurants, which I assured him was not necessary, since I’m a voracious carnivore and can find a dish on practically any menu. But the sentiment was sweet.)

G-FREE ADVICE (which I use myself)

Look at the menu beforehand. Ok, this is obvious. But since you can, why not? It takes the anxiety out of wondering if there’s anything you’ll be able to eat. My friend Sloane Miller, author of Allergic Girl, recommends to her clients that they call ahead if they’d feel more at ease, and ask about their gluten-free options, or, if your allergies are serious, talk to the chef.

Don’t make it a thing. You’ve made a simple choice to skip gluten–just as you may choose prime rib over halibut. You don’t have to spend the first 10 minutes of every meal defending your choices or apologizing for your intolerances (in fact, I’ve long believed my digestive tract should apologize to me).

Leave your bowels out of it. Your date may just be curious, as I said, and ask you why you’ve opted out of wheat. You don’t need to discuss bloating, diarrhea, or any other unmentionables. If you’re Celiac, well, you have a pretty sound medical reason. For the rest of us undiagnosed masses, you don’t need a doctor’s note to prove your point! You just say, simply, that you feel better when you’re not eating it. The end.

Make it a discussion, not a monologue (don’t preach). If your date DOES have questions about that choice, which he may, don’t freak out or clam up because you think he thinks you’re weird (unless, of course, you’re in 7th grade, in which case yeah you should freak out about this and everything else). And, it goes without saying: Don’t preach. Just because YOU have had a fabulous experience going off meat or gluten or soy or dairy doesn’t mean the other person cares to be converted. While dietary restrictions alone shouldn’t have to be a dealbreaker, you getting religion about a specific diet and annoying everyone with it can be.

Remember: Diets aren’t high-maintenance; people are. Please. I’m sure you know a few high-maintenance people who can eat anything at all and are still insufferable. And yet, many women do fear that they’ll come across as primadonnas because they won’t eat everything on a menu. Let me remind you that primadonnas make their choices OTHER people’s problems; you are simply taking responsibility for your own.

Why hide it? Many people are actually quite interested in other’s dietary choices and how they work for them, and may in fact be considering making a change in their own lives as well. This is why I don’t get the chicks who hide or lie about their food sensitivities. Why? Part of what makes a date fun is when people share things about themselves, and understanding someone’s preferences is part of it. I was asked about my g-free choice by a date recently, who then went on to offer some insight into his own choices: He had gone vegetarian two years ago, and lost 30 lbs as a result. I loved that he shared that–you can make a dietary choice a chance to get to know someone better, not hold him at bay.

Gluten is not a necessary ingredient to a great date. Trust me on this. Just because you can’t have a roll or a piece of chocolate cake doesn’t mean it won’t be fun. Don’t get hung up on the idea that you won’t be able to enjoy a date because of any of your dietary restrictions. The food and restaurant are the context, the circumstance, but they alone do not determine the quality of a night out or a connection. I’ve enjoyed plenty of great food with plenty of lousy people, and I’m sure you have to.

So bring on the g-free love, people. It shouldn’t matter one bit what you order–or what you pass on. And in the end, if your date has a very hard time with the fact that you can’t break down the protein found in wheat, then that in itself is a red flag–and I’d say the thing you should really pass on is him.

(Tune in to FM News New York (101.9) where my good friend and former radio producer Jennifer Sendrow did a series of short bits on the topic. Card that she is.) 

The Law Firm performs @ UCB

If you’re looking for a fun and unpredictable night of live performance, one in which there are no spoiler alerts or reviews because the show doesn’t exist yet, go see a professional improv group perform.

That’s what I did this past weekend, on a chilly, rainy night, pushing along with the crowd into the Upright Citizens Brigade (of course known by its way cooler insider name, UCB), a 152-seat theater on 26th street in Manhattan, and founded of course by Amy Poehler and three of her comedy cohorts. I went with a new friend to see a group called The Law Firm.

They start by asking a member of the audience to come up onto the stage and basically tell the cast about his or her week. This time, it happened to be a video editor from Slate magazine. You knew it was going to be a winner when he said that he had often ended up working from home because he tended to oversleep, and he had no time to get to work. The comedian who was interviewing him dug into his day, his week, and mined for all manner of quirky, memorable details (which of course escape me now) which the group gobbled up like an improv beast and then regurgitated in the form of a series of very funny skits.

So yes, I laughed a lot for the next hour or so–and it struck me that the reason these shows are so much more, I guess exciting is the word, is that in an entertainment world of prefab ideas, overly produced songs and movies and canned shit that we call programming, it’s rare to be part of the creation of an organically funny thing. Some of the jokes and situations the actors find themselves in are of course funny in their own right–but what they lack in polish and market-proven laughs, they make up for in the sheer fact that it’s happening right there, right now.

By design, every show has its own small and spontaneous universe of references, jokes, etc, and because we’re all there when it starts, everyone is in on the joke. Which always makes it funnier. And unlike when you’re at the movies, where there are also lots of people enjoying a mutually shared experience, the most you hope is that they shut up and don’t whip their phones out and start texting during it. But at an improv show, the audience is as important to the show as the actors are.

I left there feeling lighter, as any good comedic experience will ideally leave you–not unlike what it feels like to have gone to a party with some funny and entertaining characters, and then left it on a high note.

(Also, just because we’re on the topic, there were a whole bunch of books that came out a few years ago about improv and real life, and how to apply the lessons of one to the other. Loved this idea and did a story on it at Body+Soul a while ago, if you wanted to check it out.)

Nutritionist Kimberly Snyder got me hooked on the green smoothie! (courtesy

Want to do a little detoxing without doing a full-on cleanse? Try this smoothie from Kimberly Snyder, nutritionist to the stars, author of The Beauty Detox Solution, and all-around detox queen.

In essence, all you do is combine:
  • Greens of your choice: kale, spinach, a little watercress, anything you have around. Blend that up with a little water til smooth.
  • Apple cut up into chunks (I recommend organic since apples are one of the most heavily pesticide ridden produce out there-and if you want to detox, silly to take in more pesticides, right?) My favorite is green apple.
  • Fresh squeezed lemon juice (this makes the whole thing zingy and delish–just squeeze half a lemon, more if you want)
  • Blend til smooth!
And that, my friend, is it. You can experiment with whatever you like: carrots, ginger, cucumber, romaine, etc. You can also add a squeeze of honey or agave nectar if you like. A pinch of cayenne pepper can give it some kick.
Again, this is just a suggestion. You can’t go wrong–especially if you make it part of your daily regimen.
Why is this detoxifying?
What I learned from’s alternative health expert and nutrition expert Cathy Wong, N.D., is that while we think of detox as what we take out of our diet (namely excess junk, sugar, additives, and so on), it’s also about what we put in. And when you feed your body fresh, healthy produce, you’re helping your body do its job in eliminating the things it doesn’t need. For more, check out her book, The Inside Out Diet.
(I promise to show you more step-by-step instructions when my much-anticipated Vitamix blender comes in! I ordered it a few weeks ago and am currently waiting by the door for it.)