The one post I get more feedback on than almost any other is this one: hitting the brakes on the relationship talk. Because we’ve all had to check ourselves on this, since we all have the urge to just “know” what’s going on—often, far too early in a relationship. And the problem is that when […]
Yup, it’s all your fault. So said that Washington Post headline that grabbed eyeballs and imploded brains nationwide when it stated that women would be a whole hell of a lot safer if they’d stop being hussies and settle down. I’ll tell you what: You’re safer single. Why? Because you’re more likely to be assaulted, raped, or […]
Your thoughts are powerful things—they influence your behavior, your mood, your decisions. They determine what risks you take and which ones you don’t. But there’s one thing your thoughts cannot do: Manifest a perfect partner out of thin air. Intellectually, you know this. But a smaller part than you care to admit remains under the […]
I suffered dual blows recently: a minor physical injury, and major blow to my self esteem. And for a while, I wasn’t sure which was worse. I pulled a tendon in my foot. Sure, it hurt like a railroad spike to the sole for a few days. I hobbled and mooned about, feeling sorry for […]
If you’re dating and dating and you hate it and wish you could just get married already, well, maybe you should do that. Exactly that: Get married NOW, and date that person later. I got this nutty idea from Hellen Chen, who has given herself the moniker “matchmarker of the century,” thinks dating for years on […]
A while back Time magazine announced its Facebook app that tells you when you should be married. It pissed a lot of people off. My question is, if you’re mad, why? What the app purports to do is mine your and your friend’s Facebook data (what they report, anyway), and plug it into graph that tells […]
I’m the world’s very worst sports fan. Meaning, I’m not a sports fan. I don’t follow it, and am so utterly ignorant about the whos and whats of sport it’s embarrassing. In fact, it’s been a concern of mine since, well, as long as I can remember, standing there swaying in the bleachers at Boston […]
How does stuff get written? Depends on who’s writing it. I know some writers obsess about their “process” but the biggest challenge for me is sitting my ass down and doing it. The one thing that makes a writer different from anyone else, including people who “think” they’re writers? Writers write. Period. This piece is […]
If you’re not online dating, you’re not dating. Period. I meet and work with people all the time who want to “get back into dating,” but don’t know how. I ask, “Have you put your profile up online?” “Um, no.” Why? I’d guess that 80 percent of the time, they blame their age. No matter […]
Is your love life the romantic equivalent of a suburb? All plotted and predictable bits of grass and shrubbery; quiet, controlled, and so boring you want to blow your brains out? Time to leave the suburbs—and head into the woods. This lesson comes to you by way of an unlikely source: Stephen Sondheim’s musical “Into […]