When is it ok to leave the door open when you’re on the toilet? The answer is….Never. Never, ever, ever. You hear me? My friend sent along this humorous piece on Jezebel (and when are they not humorous?) in which the author maps the long, downward spiral of physical intimacy, starting with Level 5: Stepford […]
You’ve had a skirmish. A lover’s quarrel. A knock-down, drag-out fight. And so understandably, you’re upset. The one thing you must not do: Soothe yourself. That’s right. And I heard it straight from the source of seasoned psychologist Dr. Gail Gross. Today. She told me over tea while sketching out the diagram on a piece […]
But you’re such a sweet girl. Why aren’t you married yet?” Ugh. If you’re a single woman like me, I’m sure you’ve heard this refrain before. (Replace “sweet” with: fun, cool, smart, pretty, etc–all the same thing.) I have to admit I’ve puzzled over this for a while myself. I’ve thought, God, not only am […]
Many young women think that hook ups with dudes they can’t stand sober is a great way to save time and energy while staying focused on career goals. Fact is, hooking up will leave you hungry–especially if it’s with a guy you wouldn’t care to share a meal with. Kate Taylor’s piece in the New […]
There’s one thing holding you back from a fulfilling, fun, exciting new relationship. Your old relationship. I know, I know. You care(d) about this person a lot, and you haven’t found the right time or opportunity to do the breaking up. Or maybe you feel you can’t, for some reason. If you know the relationship […]
Romantic getaways have their place. But let me ask you this: When’s the last time you actually went away without him for a bit? If you haven’t booked a vacation solo or with friends, you need to do that. Plan to be away, for at least a weekend, if not a week or more. Why? […]
Living in New York City, you’re going to get a heaping dose of crazy on an almost daily basis. It’s just how it is. It’s inconvenient, annoying, but it usually doesn’t get violent–especially if you don’t engage. For the past three years, I’ve slipped by and around lots of it, unscathed. Until a few months […]
If you’re holding off on dating until you’ve lost the weight, bought better clothes, or are awaiting the arrival of a brilliant future version of yourself, you’ve set the worst goal ever. Because it’s not a goal. It’s a slippery slope defined by—what? An arbitrary number on the scale? The day your bangs grow out? […]
If you’re thinking of taking a break from dating “to focus on yourself,” you’re doing yourself a big disservice. You’re also lying. Why? Because this is little more than fear dressed as empowerment. Sure, it sounds like a well-thought out decision, and all spiritually evolved….which is why it often escapes without scrutiny. Not that you […]
Dating an older woman is hot. Ask any man who dates one. And as a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now-moreso even when I was that age. So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me […]