I’ve always been a late bloomer.
I was born late, in October, making me the runt of the class litter.
Last one to get my driver’s license. Last one to turn 21. Last one to have a boyfriend. Last one to hit a host of other teenage milestones that I won’t go into here.
I dragged my heels getting a real job, and temped miserably for a year before committing to an office gig. I didn’t start my career in earnest until I landed an editorial role at a magazine… at age 30.
I moved to New York City so late, that by the time I did, all my friends had left, headed to the suburbs with spouses and babies in tow. The party was over. (Well, not really. I just started hanging out with younger people.)
If I didn’t tell you that, you wouldn’t know it. You’d assume I had it all planned out perfectly. I did not.
It can be very misleading to look at someone’s life, career, LinkedIn profile, whatever, and assume their life just skipped along like a stone thrown expertly across the surface of a lake. It’s easy to assume the arcs were easy and seamless and right on time. Sometimes, we may need to look to healing the mind through hypnotherapy to understand this, and to help ourselves along the way.
I will say this: Everything happens in its own, right time. In “divine time,” as some of my more spiritually inclined friends will say. I believe that, because looking back, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I talked about all of this in a podcast I just did with Michele Lamoureux, creator and host of The Good Life Coach Podcast.
She’s a no-nonsense, straightforward woman and I did my best to make her laugh. I think it worked.
(There’s also show notes and links to cool stuff too.)
In it, I talk about what a mess I was. I think it’s important that we all know what a mess we all were and are. I don’t find it inspiring to listen to people who think they have it all figured out.
But, I also talk about how to go about standing out (and why it’s so hard to do so).
Here’s how you don’t do it: Watching and mimicking everyone else–even the most successful ones. I admit that I really don’t pay all that much attention to other people and what all they’re up to. I think it can be an energy and confidence suck.
And I go into some of the tools I use for helping you think about and position what you do and want to do for other people. And it’s not “how to get all the business in the world” because trust me, you don’t want all of it. You don’t want most of it!
Ok. That’s enough from me for one week. Don’t you think?
P.S. Here’s that link to the podcast again. You’ll like Michele.