Have you met Annie Dillard? Probably not in person, but met her, as in, on the page. She’s one of the most unusual writers you’ll ever read. Her words leap to the surface and surprise you with their compact moving parts, their stunning clarity, how they make magic of everyday things. I found this piece on […]

Do you know how much more effective positive feedback is to negative attention? What do you think. Twice as much? Ten times at most? Try 30. Positive attention is 30x’s more powerful than negative attention in creating high performance on a team. (That comes from Marcus Buckingham & Ashley Goodall.) Oh, so that means we […]

You already know the first rule of fight club. But do you know the first rule of Gateless Writing? No. Most people don’t what that even is. The first rule is: Do not disclaim your work. It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do: Say something WITHOUT qualifying, defending, explaining away, or basically telling […]

Quick story: Years ago, I went on a writing retreat in Rhode Island. I knew one person (my friend Becky). The retreat leader, Suzanne Kingsbury, explained the method we would be using: We’d write together, then read what we wrote out loud. And then we’d give feedback on what we liked about what we heard. […]

I didn’t catch a football until I was in my 40s. Mainly because no one had ever thrown me one.  I was encouraged, invited (cajoled! Forced!) by my friends from improv class to be part of their coed touch football team in this actual league where you had matching t-shirts and everything.  No. Way.  You […]

Look, messaging is hard enough ON A GOOD DAY WHEN THE WORLD IS NOT BURNING.  But during highly charged moments like this one, it’s worth thinking real hard about what you want to say, yes, but also why you think you want to say it.  Anything you say can get a response you didn’t expect […]

Years ago I went on a Segway tour of Austin. I was rigid with fear when I got up on that thing. It felt like standing on a vacuum cleaner and attempting to ride it.  We all have some inherent understanding of what makes things go: A swing? Easy. Pump and pull. A bike? Work […]

This is a pic of me on a date with a man I met on New Year’s Eve in 2013. He’s so goddamn gorgeous I only had the heart to cut out half his face so that his identity is kinda protected but also you can see him OMGGG.   He was a male model […]

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Want People to Read Your Website? Write It Like A Love Letter

I recently had the privilege of working with one of the top financial advisors in the country. She wanted to rebrand her firm, and with good reason: It didn’t reflect who she really is, and what she and her team really stand for. Common problem.…

Content isn't king. It's queen.

Content is king. Right? That’s what people say.  Is it though? Because I’m kinda thinking content is...queen. Sure, the king rules the land, calls the shots. He’s the authority.  But. The queen is the master of content. The…

What not to say in a hot tub (ever)

Years ago, I spent the weekend at a friend’s ski chalet. It had a hot tub. So, around 9pm, we grabbed some beers and got in it. One of the guests was a man I’d never met, and I was trying to decide if I found him appealing. I figured it…

You know what we need? A little Octopus Time

I’ve had aquatic life on the brain lately. Don’t ask. Everything’s weird.  But you know what we could all use a little of? Octopus Time. A little OT.  This is how Sy Montgomery describes the way her experience of time changed while…

Not good at picture taking (and lots of other things)

I know. I'm touching my face! This was back in January, before doing so became verboten. Please know that no one got hurt during this photo shoot. (My photographer DID very nearly pass out--but only because he didn't eat lunch.…

Why Cuomo is a rock star right now

Howard Stern interviewed Gov. Cuomo recently. He asked him what he makes of all the fuss over him right now.  “Are you shocked by all this unbelievable outpouring of love for you? Are you just blown away by this? You’re on the cover…