Two things I love about my friend Jenn Lederer: She’s got an open mind and sharp opinions. She’s cool with whatever you want to wear, do, pursue. “You do you, girl,” she says, waving her hand at everyone and no one. But don’t get her started on footwear. “Wedges? Fine. Clogs, cool. Tennis shoes ok. […]

The Zen Buddhists talk about beginner’s mind. Maybe you’ve heard it as ‘child mind.’ It sounds enlightened, to come at this with a clean slate, to adopt a beginner’s mindset in order to gain new insight. Cool.   But what about being … an amateur?  Oh god, we hate that. Please! We’re professionals! We’ve been doing […]

After I got laid off, I decided not to get another job. I just…didn’t want one. Simple as that. I decided to work on my own, from my couch. As a natural introvert, I was in heaven.  And yet—it became clear I had to get out of the house. So I signed up for an […]

When 20 of the nation’s top advisors walked into the room that morning, they probably thought we were about to debate the merits of logos and taglines. Nope. I told them to take out a pen, and I gave them a prompt: Write about a time when you realized that what you’d always thought was […]

Like you, I’ve made some sacrifices to the New Year gods—more vegetables, a month without booze. But one of the most important resolutions I’ve made for 2020 this: To stop selling shit on Craigslist. Why? Why’s that so bad? It’s not bad, inherently. Longtime users of this stripped down, early-aughts online garage sale love that […]

​I just watched the new animated Netflix movie Klaus with some friends the other night, and if it’s not in your holiday movie queue, it should be. Not just because it’s cute and well done. But because there’s a hidden and profound message for those of us in a line of work we never imagined we’d […]

After years of working on a book, I’m finally shopping around a proposal. And while I’m only a few weeks into this first leg of the publishing journey, I can tell you already it is not for the faint of heart. Of course, I went into this expecting an even blend of rejection and radio […]

Have you seen Hadestown? The award winning Broadway show is a brilliant, modern retelling of the Greek myth of Orpheus and Eurydice. (And yes, it will blow you away.) Here’s the quick and dirty: Orpheus and Eurydice fall in love. Orpheus has been working on his masterpiece, an epic song that will change the world. […]

Here's what you're doing right (says almost no one)

When’s the last time someone pointed out what you were doing right? Not just “good job.” I mean, specifically and in detail something you did really, really well. Ok. And when’s the last time someone pointed out an error you made,…

What you did well

When’s the last time someone pointed out what you were doing right? Not just “good job.” I mean, specifically and in detail something you did really, really well. Ok. And when’s the last time someone pointed out an error you made,…

When's the last time someone REALLY listened to you?

When's the last time someone listened to you. I mean, really listened. Like, you could tell they were right there with you. It's rare, to have someone's attention like that. Even right now, I only have a share of your attention. And…

Why Everyone Wants To Be Scared (Just A Little)

A few weeks ago, some friends and I decided to do something really seasonal: We went out to the country (read: Jersey) to pick apples.  Turns out, we’d missed apple picking season by two weeks. We could buy the ones that had been picked…

Did I Tell You I'm Moving?

What’s going on in your world? Two big things this week in mine: Wed (the 9th) is my birthday, and I’m also moving. Did I tell you that? Not far—about four blocks from where I currently live on the Upper West Side. My requirements…

Why your work should belong to someone else

If you had asked me last week if I’d be moved by a closing performance by Queen at the Global Citizen Festival in Central Park, I’d say, umm, probably not.  But then on Thursday, I watched Bohemian Rhapsody, and that changed everything.  Have…