Four years ago I gave a TEDx talk called “Stop searching for your passion.” This is not news. I memorized every word of that talk. I delivered it in a room of around 1500 people. And I walked out of there and thought, “Ok! that was fun. I hope someone outside of that theater ever […]

A few weeks ago, I told you to be wary of advice. Even mine. Why? Because it’s tempting to believe that if we just follow the right advice, we never have to make any mistakes. Ever. If your whole goal is to avoid mess, mistakes, and effort by stepping gingerly inside the footsteps of others, […]

Look at your calendar real quick.  I bet you have stuff scheduled today, and several things this week, that involve being in a room, real or virtual, with other people. Some of those meetings are obviously work-related, because they happen in a conference room or conference call. Others are pretending to be fun (drinks!) but […]

You don’t know HOW many times people have said to me that the biggest problem they’re having with messaging—no matter what it is—is that whatever they have to say (sell, promote, announce) isn’t sexy enough. But in fact, it is. Why? Because there is no such thing as a boring topic. If you think something […]

There isn’t a person out there right now who isn’t dying to give you their opinion. Some will charge you for it. Most will just give it to you for free.  Your inbox is teeming with bits of advice, expertise—from your boss, your business partner, that guy you met at a networking event (who opted […]

I went on my first solo trip abroad end of June, and spent a week in Florence—in 15th century Florence…which of course explains why I had no cell service.  OK fine. I had cell service. But. I feel like I time traveled, because I spent days immersed in the Renaissance. Oh, I was ALL UP […]

Watching Mel Robbins take the stage last week at the Energetic Women’s Conference in Indianapolis was like seeing a rock star on the final leg of her tour. (She’ll be going off the road as she heads into production for her syndicated daytime talk show which airs this fall.) You probably know of Mel from […]

Hey-o. I recently spent two days at a Gateless writing retreat that was part garden party, part creative brainstorm, part coven. It was wickedly fun.  I’m also trained in the Gateless Method, the goal of which is to slap a muzzle on the critical mind so that you can get dig deep down into the […]

She's cute, yes. She's also a list-making ninja.

My friend Paula Rizzo looks like a sweet little cat.  She’s neat and orderly and totally adorable, a petite, pretty brunette with a laugh like a bell.  But don’t be fooled. Inside that kitten facade, the girl is a pit bull.  She…

Highlights from a hot church weekend, circa 1987

Ever go on a church retreat? I did.  Antioch Weekend at Our Lady of the Blessed Sacrament in Roseland, New Jersey. In the 80s. You got to wear your Jordache jeans and sleep over at host houses and hang out with kids you didn’t know…

Criticism Will Kill Your Talent

Ever hear of a woman named Brenda Ueland?  She was before your time, and mine. And she did not mince words.  “I hate orthodox criticism,” she wrote,  “...small niggling, fussy-mussy criticism, which thinks it can improve people…

Lunch Trays Do Not Inspire Brilliance (So Stop Looking For Them)

OK here's what happened: A woman emailed me recently and said she wanted help creating a TEDx talk. I said sure. In fact, I could do her one better—I invited her to join me for the Pop-Up Story Salon in Manhattan that week. This would…

I’m running late........ (In life.)

I’ve always been a late bloomer. I was born late, in October, making me the runt of the class litter. Last one to get my driver’s license. Last one to turn 21. Last one to have a boyfriend. Last one to hit a host of other teenage…

What Happens When You Call Someone Out (And You Should)

When I was a graduate student at Emerson College, I got a teaching fellowship and found myself for the first time teaching writing comp to a roomful of freshmen. And while I never met a captive audience I didn’t like, this group had its…