The key to partnering with other humans

more info If you think that being a successful person, professional, entrepreneur, or human requires that you “do it on your own,” boy are you making life hard for yourself. I’ve been on my own for almost 7 years now—7!—since I was laid off from my magazine job. And people always say, “Wow, you went out on […]

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3 Things that Keep Good Speakers from Being Great

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Are TEDx talks played out?

order now I was at a party last year that was attended mainly by authors, agents, and PR people. And one of the authors heard that I helped people create their TEDx talks. “Isn’t TED kind of played out,” she said, poking at her gin and tonic with a straw. It wasn’t a question. “Why do you […]

How to get people to pay attention (because they’re not)

order now It’s hard to get people to listen, for like, longer than two seconds. It really is. Even when it’s their job to pay attention. Ever read Oren Klaff’s “Pitch Anything?” He made it so clear to me why we miss the mark: It’s because we assume that the moment we pitch (what we think is […]

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3 Life Lessons You Can Learn from Being on TV

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Knowing things you shouldn’t know

I was on a first date last summer when I decided to play the game again: I asked this man if he had had a dog growing up. All I knew was that he was raised in Missouri, the youngest of three boys. “Yes, I did, actually.” I could almost see the dog in my […]

What makes you stand out (and why it’s worth the risk)

I’ve never had a client who didn’t want to help people. What I say to them (gently, of course) is that while of course I believe them, their good intentions do not constitute a brand. Because everyone in their own way wants to help. It’s truth, but not identity. That we need to get past […]

Getting what you want

There’s nothing more disappointing than getting exactly what you want: the pink bike with the banana seat; a Cabbage Patch Doll; praline ice cream cake. The equation makes no sense: Ask for thing, get thing should equal pure joy. And there was joy, of course. But then, a kind of ache, after. It doesn’t change, […]

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10 Real Things that Resulted from my TEDx Talk

There are lots of great reasons to do a TEDx talk: It’s instant cred, a powerful thought leadership platform, a public speaker’s calling card, a way to reach and inspire millions. All great reasons. But what really comes about as a result?…

How I Got a TEDx Talk

The only thing more stunning than walking into the Kauffman Center in Kansas City when it’s full of people is when you're the only one there. That’s where I stood, slack-jawed and awestruck on Saturday afternoon, August 29, 2015,…
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Why You Should Stop Trying to Inspire People

I work with people of all backgrounds and businesses who have something to say and are dying to say it. They want to do media and launch podcasts, give TED talks and write books. They want to “put themselves out there.” If there were…
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What's actually missing from your talk (just ask Sarah)

I was giving a presentation the other day to a roomful of authors and people who work with authors. The topic? Why every author needs a TEDx talk. (Because they do.) One woman raised her hand and said she'd been having trouble getting her…

How to drive defensively

Every time you step out that door some sonofabitch is shootin at ya. That’s what my grandfather always said. He wasn’t paranoid; he was a state policeman in Hazleton, PA. It’s not a negative worldview, though it may seem that way; it’s…

How to play when you're not a sports person

I played on the girls softball league in my town in grade school. It’s not something I wanted to do, or asked to do. My mother simply signed me up and I did it. Why was I doing this? A few other kids from school were doing it, and it would…