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Eat Slower With Friends (or Eat Alone)

Did you know that you eat way, way more when you dine with other people? Funny, because so often I hear people say they honestly think they eat LESS when they’re out with friends or colleagues because they’re “so busy talking.” Well, I’ll tell you right now that’s a load of bull. Most of us […]

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Don’t Hit Send (Trust Me)

So…you’re mad. You got an inexcusable, dismissive, or disrespectful email that you are ready to smack right back across the digital fence. It’s easy, right? Too easy. And THAT perhaps may be one of the most temptingly dangerous fruits that instantaneous communication lays at our feet. Because it’d be a whole different story if you […]

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Don’t Booze Right Before Bed (And What to Do Instead)

Sure, that glass of pinot sounds like a good idea right before bed, especially when you typically have trouble transitioning to shuteye. But beware bedtime drinker: While that vino (or vodka, whatever your pleasure) may “take the edge off” and make you drowsy, and help you ease into sleep–it won’t keep you there. Why Alcohol […]

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Stop Feeding Your Inner Hoarder

The term “hoarder” has, you may have noticed, become subject to word inflation. And why? Because it’s catchy and current and everyone who shows even the slightest hesitation at parting with any single item or collection of items risks being called one. We may, half jokingly, eye our own piles and worry that maybe there […]

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Screw the Resolutions. Just Start Doing Something (I’ll Give You 6 to Start)

Well hello there. You made it. Over the rickety holiday bridge into the vast tundra of the new year, possibly the last year, if the Mayans have it right. I’m not all that worried about it. In fact, more of you are likely dreading something else–weight gain, or rather, a failure to lose weight gained […]

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Got Stuck…in a Very Good Way

I’m a wimp around needles, but no stranger to acupuncture. I black out when I have blood taken, sure, it’s happened. But put me on an acupuncturist’s table, and my fear, like my stress, all but evaporates. And until you experience it for yourself, you probably won’t believe me. That’s fine. I have had a […]

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Don’t Fight with Granny at Christmas: How Family Tensions Take Us to the Dark Side

I truly believe that every holiday begins with the best of intentions: To be kinder, more open, more interested, more engaged, more communicative. We go in thinking THIS is the year it’s going to be really wonderful. We produce Norman Rockwell-ized images in our minds of what our family could be, peering in at all […]

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I Don’t Wish You a Perfect Holiday. Here’s Why.

Hear that ringing? It’s the jingle jangle of holiday headaches. Ah, just listen to it all, the cacophony of nervous systems lit up like Christmas trees. Now, let’s figure out how to calm it all the F down. The best decision I’ve made so far in this holiday season is one I try to make […]

How to Get A Guy to Commit (If That's What You Want)

You think that the man (or woman) you like will never commit to you, because he can’t or won’t, or both. And that you’ll never, ever be able to find a man who will commit to you, because men suck and then you die. Ok. Rewind. A woman…

Why You'll Love Dating an Older Woman

Dating an older woman is hot. Ask any man who dates one. And as a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even when I was that age. So if you’re only seeking women in the…

Fuck Fate & Date Like a Grown Up

You want to believe that if you’re a good girl, the world will deliver unto you the Perfect Guy. That Fate or God is the ultimate matchmaker, pulling the strings of your life to make shit happen. “We’re soul mates!” is the rallying…
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How You Met Doesn't Fucking Matter

In his recent post on The Date Report, Ryan Dodge pokes fun at the tendency every couple feels to schtick-up their how-we-met story. He admits that his first date with his current girlfriend was forgettable at best. He asked her out again…

Just Say No to You-Go-Girl Advice

  The day 50-year-old white suburban women started throwing around the phrase "you go girl" was the day that the phrase ran out of cultural gas. (Actually, I'm pretty sure it lost pop culture potency when this company used it to name…

PDA Will Save Your Relationship

You're sitting at a bar when you look over and see this couple. Or should I say THAT couple. You can't miss them. Their roaming hands and mouths and sultry stares. Their dinners untouched as they practically consume each other whole. You…