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Try the Whelk (Even If You Don’t Know What It Is)

Last night I met a new friend for dinner at the John Dory restaurant on 6th. I had champagne and oysters on the brain, craving the alternating pleasures of crisp, toasty bubbles paired with the cool mouthful of salt and sweet oyster flesh. I had never heard of whelk (aside from Lawrence, kept fresh in […]

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Go Out for Brunch (i.e., Get Out of Your *** House)

Today is my birthday. October 9th. It falls during the preliminary days of autumn when you don’t know whether to wear shorts or pack a sweater. The day before Columbus Day. And, in grammar school, marked the beginning of Fire Prevention Week, during which local firemen would come to Our Lady of the Blessed Sacrament […]

How to Happen to the Hottest Guy in the Room

You've spotted him. He's the one you want and there's no denying it. What do you do--stand coyly by and hope he notices you, chooses you, initiates? You can. But the women with a little hustle are going to beat you to it. I will beat you to…

Don't Cry For Me: How Emotional Bait Failed to Save a Second Date

I cried like a bitch at the end of The Sessions. This was not a single tear or two. This was full-on heaving, both hands to your head and give it up in a snobby, snotty fit. If you saw the movie, you know why. Because it's incredibly fucking…

Why I'm Afraid I'll Ruin Christmas

Why? Because I've ruined a few. And not just Christmas--pick any holiday, really. It happens the same way every time: I drive up with the best of intentions, sipping coffee on the Merritt Parkway, indulging in caffeinated visions of familial…
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Why You're Afraid of Online Dating

If you turn your nose up at online dating, or love to complain about how "it doesn't work," I have a suggestion: Replace the term "online dating" with "my love life" and you'll have a fairly accurate take on what's holding you back in the relationships…

But Dating's Too Hard! (& Other Lies You Tell Yourself)

You have this idea about dating. And it's wrong. Actually, you have a lot of ideas, presumptions, assumptions, and suspicions about dating, and they're the things that hold you back and make dating miserable. One of my favorites is this one:…

Break Up Now: Your Holiday Window is Closing

The holidays can be very tricky ground--especially if you're in a relationship that likely will not make it to 2013. When the New York Times's Social Q's columnist Philip Galanes came on my radio show last week,* he said it simply: "You're…