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Refill Your Green Tea

I hesitate to even tell you to drink green tea because you may fall immediately asleep out of boredom because you’ve heard people touting this beverage for at least a hundred years. Or so it seems. But I’m sorry. Some things are just worth repeating. The research keeps piling up. What you may know already […]

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Eat Slower With Friends (or Eat Alone)

Did you know that you eat way, way more when you dine with other people? Funny, because so often I hear people say they honestly think they eat LESS when they’re out with friends or colleagues because they’re “so busy talking.” Well, I’ll tell you right now that’s a load of bull. Most of us […]

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Don’t Hit Send (Trust Me)

So…you’re mad. You got an inexcusable, dismissive, or disrespectful email that you are ready to smack right back across the digital fence. It’s easy, right? Too easy. And THAT perhaps may be one of the most temptingly dangerous fruits that instantaneous communication lays at our feet. Because it’d be a whole different story if you […]

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Don’t Booze Right Before Bed (And What to Do Instead)

Sure, that glass of pinot sounds like a good idea right before bed, especially when you typically have trouble transitioning to shuteye. But beware bedtime drinker: While that vino (or vodka, whatever your pleasure) may “take the edge off” and make you drowsy, and help you ease into sleep–it won’t keep you there. Why Alcohol […]

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Stop Feeding Your Inner Hoarder

The term “hoarder” has, you may have noticed, become subject to word inflation. And why? Because it’s catchy and current and everyone who shows even the slightest hesitation at parting with any single item or collection of items risks being called one. We may, half jokingly, eye our own piles and worry that maybe there […]

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Screw the Resolutions. Just Start Doing Something (I’ll Give You 6 to Start)

Well hello there. You made it. Over the rickety holiday bridge into the vast tundra of the new year, possibly the last year, if the Mayans have it right. I’m not all that worried about it. In fact, more of you are likely dreading something else–weight gain, or rather, a failure to lose weight gained […]

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Got Stuck…in a Very Good Way

I’m a wimp around needles, but no stranger to acupuncture. I black out when I have blood taken, sure, it’s happened. But put me on an acupuncturist’s table, and my fear, like my stress, all but evaporates. And until you experience it for yourself, you probably won’t believe me. That’s fine. I have had a […]

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Don’t Fight with Granny at Christmas: How Family Tensions Take Us to the Dark Side

I truly believe that every holiday begins with the best of intentions: To be kinder, more open, more interested, more engaged, more communicative. We go in thinking THIS is the year it’s going to be really wonderful. We produce Norman Rockwell-ized images in our minds of what our family could be, peering in at all […]

Are You F'n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee Incident

Living in New York City, you're going to get a heaping dose of crazy on an almost daily basis. It's just how it is. It's inconvenient, annoying, but it usually doesn't get violent--especially if you don't engage. For the past three years,…

Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain't Nobody Got Time for That

If you’re holding off on dating until you’ve lost the weight, bought better clothes, or are awaiting the arrival of a brilliant future version of yourself, you’ve set the worst goal ever. Because it’s not a goal. It’s a slippery slope…

"I'm Going to Just Focus on Myself" & Other Lies

If you’re thinking of taking a break from dating “to focus on yourself,” you’re doing yourself a big disservice. You’re also lying. Why? Because this is little more than fear dressed as empowerment. Sure, it sounds like a well-thought…

How to Get A Guy to Commit (If That's What You Want)

You think that the man (or woman) you like will never commit to you, because he can’t or won’t, or both. And that you’ll never, ever be able to find a man who will commit to you, because men suck and then you die. Ok. Rewind. A woman…

Why You'll Love Dating an Older Woman

Dating an older woman is hot. Ask any man who dates one. And as a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even when I was that age. So if you’re only seeking women in the…

Fuck Fate & Date Like a Grown Up

You want to believe that if you’re a good girl, the world will deliver unto you the Perfect Guy. That Fate or God is the ultimate matchmaker, pulling the strings of your life to make shit happen. “We’re soul mates!” is the rallying…