Your thoughts are powerful things—they influence your behavior, your mood, your decisions. They determine what risks you take and which ones you don’t. But there’s one thing your thoughts cannot do: Manifest a perfect partner out of thin air. Intellectually, you know this. But a smaller part than you care to admit remains under the…
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Your Age Is the Worst Excuse Ever
READ MORE: Your Age Is the Worst Excuse EverIf you’re not online dating, you’re not dating. Period. I meet and work with people all the time who want to “get back into dating,” but don’t know how. I ask, “Have you put your profile up online?” “Um, no.” Why? I’d guess that 80 percent of the time, they blame their age. No matter…
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Take Your Love Life Into the Woods (And I Don’t Just Mean Sex Outdoors)
READ MORE: Take Your Love Life Into the Woods (And I Don’t Just Mean Sex Outdoors)Is your love life the romantic equivalent of a suburb? All plotted and predictable bits of grass and shrubbery; quiet, controlled, and so boring you want to blow your brains out? Time to leave the suburbs—and head into the woods. This lesson comes to you by way of an unlikely source: Stephen Sondheim’s musical “Into…
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3 Things to Do and Not Do on Valentine’s Day
READ MORE: 3 Things to Do and Not Do on Valentine’s DayIt’s easy to pile on poor Valentine’s Day. And if it makes you feel any better, a rather small slice of the population is really psyched about it. If you’re single, chances are you roll your eyes, flip couples the bird, and want to go “eff yourself,” as this video advises, via Jezebel. If you’re…
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Your Heartache Does Not Make You Interesting (It’s a Drag)
READ MORE: Your Heartache Does Not Make You Interesting (It’s a Drag)Seems like a no-brainer, but it’s a bad idea to point out your flaws on a first date. Or a second date. Or on your dating profile. Or, when you’re on The Bachelor. Despite what you may think, your pain does not make you interesting, or attractive. And recounting your past hurts makes you a…
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“I Had Fun, But…”: Why To Let Her Off the Hook
READ MORE: “I Had Fun, But…”: Why To Let Her Off the HookQ. I just suffered some serious dating whiplash: I met a girl, and we went on three dates. First date – short but great, easy and fun. Second date – meal and cinema, easy and fun, hand holding and kissing. Third date – drinks and fun, lots of chatting, lots of kissing. 12 hours later, the next morning –…
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I Was Blindsided After Two Dates. WTF?
READ MORE: I Was Blindsided After Two Dates. WTF?Q. I went on two dates with a girl, both of which were really fun, so I asked her out again. And out of the blue, I get a text message from her declining, saying that she appreciates the offer but is “feeling we’re not really compatible for the long term.” WTF? Of course, I…
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If I Play Hard to Get, Will He Come Around?
READ MORE: If I Play Hard to Get, Will He Come Around?Q. After dating this guy for a month, I asked him where we stood, and he said somewhere between casual and exclusive. I was okay with that, but after three months I called it off. I wanted more. Then I started initiating hangouts, and sometimes we had sex. I thought if I reminded him of…
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If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for Them
READ MORE: If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for ThemSince I’ve been single, which hasn’t been all that long, I’ve been on three dates. And would you believe two of the three were rocking a hat. Two! And not a hat meant to keep your head warm, nor a hipster/barista’s “I didn’t shower” knit cap, mind you. But a gentleman’s hat. And while any…