Spontaneity can be a great thing–the impromptu cocktail with a friend, a last-minute jaunt out of town with a guy (or girl) you like a lot. I get it, I love it. It can be fun and thrilling and very romantic. I welcome those rare opportunities, especially when they happen with people you know you…
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Are There Too Many Dating Choices? Another Theory Debunked
READ MORE: Are There Too Many Dating Choices? Another Theory DebunkedA 20ish woman was telling me some of her dating woes–and theories. I love the theories most of all. She had been doing some dating on OKCupid, and had come to the conclusion that the problem with online dating was that “there were too many people on there.” What do you mean too many people?…
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Why Aren’t Dudes Reading 50 Shades?
READ MORE: Why Aren’t Dudes Reading 50 Shades?A guy I know recently asked me if I’d read Fifty Shades of Grey. I said yes, I had. He then told me he didn’t know any women who HADN’T read it. “Have you read it?” I asked. He hadn’t. I know very few men, in fact, who have read or even peeked at the…
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Dating Clinic: How (Not) to Talk to Strangers
READ MORE: Dating Clinic: How (Not) to Talk to StrangersI recently attended a singles event in Manhattan sponsored by an online dating site. The bar had lots of atmosphere—but very little A/C, so it was social, but sweaty. And while the crowd was very squarely adult (average age probably about 35), you would have thought it was a high school mixer. Women sat along…
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What Makes a Man: My Take on TED and MOONRISE KINGDOM
READ MORE: What Makes a Man: My Take on TED and MOONRISE KINGDOMI spent several hours this weekend watching adults act like children and children take brave risks in the name of love. I was at the movies. The movies were Seth MacFarlane’s Ted and Wes Anderson’s Moonrise Kingdom. Seemingly, the two have nothing in common: We have a funny, crude comedy in which Mark Wahlberg’s character John Bennett…
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Why You Shouldn’t Aspire to Date–or Be–Nice
READ MORE: Why You Shouldn’t Aspire to Date–or Be–NiceOne of my coaching clients said to me recently, “I just want to find a nice guy.” I had to call bullshit on her. Especially since she had just finished telling me that the most significant relationship of her adult life was this sexy but slippery beast of a man whom she couldn’t say no…
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Um, Do You See a Ring On This Finger?
READ MORE: Um, Do You See a Ring On This Finger?There is a great myth out there being sold wholesale to single people: You’re incomplete if you do not have a partner. There’s also the time sensitive version: You’re incomplete–and a failure–if you do not have a partner by age X. I’ve got news for you, people. This is complete and utter bullshit. Where does…
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Don’t Marry Yourself. Period.
READ MORE: Don’t Marry Yourself. Period.There once was a woman from Fargo who married herself. It’s true. She’s not the only one, either. But let’s stick with Nadine, who was featured on the Anderson Cooper show a while back. She did what she thinks was a cute, quirky thing that I’m sure she knew would get a lot of attention,…
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3 Reasons to Be Single on Valentine’s Day
READ MORE: 3 Reasons to Be Single on Valentine’s DaySo you’re single on Valentine’s Day. Good for you. Fear not–I won’t patronize you with ridiculous advice that 1) presumes you need pity, 2) insults your intelligence, or 3) suggests that you need a bubble bath and a new pair of shoes because you don’t have a boyfriend. Ok, so maybe some ladies LIKE to…