So you think it’s time to have The Talk. You like each other, and you want to know the deal. You want to know where things stand. Don’t do it. In fact, delay that conversation as long as you possibly can, especially when you’ve just started dating. My rule of thumb is that you can…
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Your Heartache Does Not Make You Interesting (It’s a Drag)
READ MORE: Your Heartache Does Not Make You Interesting (It’s a Drag)Seems like a no-brainer, but it’s a bad idea to point out your flaws on a first date. Or a second date. Or on your dating profile. Or, when you’re on The Bachelor. Despite what you may think, your pain does not make you interesting, or attractive. And recounting your past hurts makes you a…
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“I Had Fun, But…”: Why To Let Her Off the Hook
READ MORE: “I Had Fun, But…”: Why To Let Her Off the HookQ. I just suffered some serious dating whiplash: I met a girl, and we went on three dates. First date – short but great, easy and fun. Second date – meal and cinema, easy and fun, hand holding and kissing. Third date – drinks and fun, lots of chatting, lots of kissing. 12 hours later, the next morning –…
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I’m Terri, and I’m a Raving Perfectionist
READ MORE: I’m Terri, and I’m a Raving PerfectionistI haven’t written a blog in weeks. Why? Because I was: Busy. Reading. Working on proposals. Getting organized. Watching “Orange is the New Black.” This is a lie. Of course, I was doing those things. But that’s not why I haven’t blogged. Not even close. The truth is that I’m a fucking perfectionist. The very…
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I Was Blindsided After Two Dates. WTF?
READ MORE: I Was Blindsided After Two Dates. WTF?Q. I went on two dates with a girl, both of which were really fun, so I asked her out again. And out of the blue, I get a text message from her declining, saying that she appreciates the offer but is “feeling we’re not really compatible for the long term.” WTF? Of course, I…
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If I Play Hard to Get, Will He Come Around?
READ MORE: If I Play Hard to Get, Will He Come Around?Q. After dating this guy for a month, I asked him where we stood, and he said somewhere between casual and exclusive. I was okay with that, but after three months I called it off. I wanted more. Then I started initiating hangouts, and sometimes we had sex. I thought if I reminded him of…
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If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for Them
READ MORE: If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for ThemSince I’ve been single, which hasn’t been all that long, I’ve been on three dates. And would you believe two of the three were rocking a hat. Two! And not a hat meant to keep your head warm, nor a hipster/barista’s “I didn’t shower” knit cap, mind you. But a gentleman’s hat. And while any…
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OMG. I Agree with Joel Osteen: Stop Sitting On Your Ass
READ MORE: OMG. I Agree with Joel Osteen: Stop Sitting On Your AssJoel Osteen wants me to be obedient. That’s what he tells the ginormous congregation at Lakewood Church, and me, when I got caught in his magnetic Christian trance after Meet the Press. But not just any kind of obedient. Boldly obedient. “You’re waiting on God,” he says, “but God’s waiting on you.” Osteen looks like he was…
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Man Earns Praise for Not Being A Selfish Prick
READ MORE: Man Earns Praise for Not Being A Selfish PrickThe post was called “Marriage Is Not For You” and it’s gotten 24 million views and counting. 24 million. What sounded like it might be an edgy, controversial post ended up doing little more than underscore sentimental, conventional values that harken back to, as the author says, pre-Walmart days and the pesky, modern demand for satisfaction (imagine that).…
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Adopt a Closed (Bathroom) Door Policy
READ MORE: Adopt a Closed (Bathroom) Door PolicyWhen is it ok to leave the door open when you’re on the toilet? The answer is….Never. Never, ever, ever. You hear me? My friend sent along this humorous piece on Jezebel (and when are they not humorous?) in which the author maps the long, downward spiral of physical intimacy, starting with Level 5: Stepford…