You’ve had a skirmish. A lover’s quarrel. A knock-down, drag-out fight. And so understandably, you’re upset. The one thing you must not do: Soothe yourself. That’s right. And I heard it straight from the source of seasoned psychologist Dr. Gail Gross. Today. She told me over tea while sketching out the diagram on a piece…
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You’re Not Broken. You’re Just Not Married. (There’s a Difference.)
READ MORE: You’re Not Broken. You’re Just Not Married. (There’s a Difference.)But you’re such a sweet girl. Why aren’t you married yet?” Ugh. If you’re a single woman like me, I’m sure you’ve heard this refrain before. (Replace “sweet” with: fun, cool, smart, pretty, etc–all the same thing.) I have to admit I’ve puzzled over this for a while myself. I’ve thought, God, not only am…
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Hook Ups Will Leave You Hungry
READ MORE: Hook Ups Will Leave You HungryMany young women think that hook ups with dudes they can’t stand sober is a great way to save time and energy while staying focused on career goals. Fact is, hooking up will leave you hungry–especially if it’s with a guy you wouldn’t care to share a meal with. Kate Taylor’s piece in the New…
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3 Worst Reasons to Stay in Your Dead-End Relationship
READ MORE: 3 Worst Reasons to Stay in Your Dead-End RelationshipThere’s one thing holding you back from a fulfilling, fun, exciting new relationship. Your old relationship. I know, I know. You care(d) about this person a lot, and you haven’t found the right time or opportunity to do the breaking up. Or maybe you feel you can’t, for some reason. If you know the relationship…
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You’ll Like Him Even More If He Goes Away for a Bit
READ MORE: You’ll Like Him Even More If He Goes Away for a BitRomantic getaways have their place. But let me ask you this: When’s the last time you actually went away without him for a bit? If you haven’t booked a vacation solo or with friends, you need to do that. Plan to be away, for at least a weekend, if not a week or more. Why?…
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Are You F’n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee Incident
READ MORE: Are You F’n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee IncidentLiving in New York City, you’re going to get a heaping dose of crazy on an almost daily basis. It’s just how it is. It’s inconvenient, annoying, but it usually doesn’t get violent–especially if you don’t engage. For the past three years, I’ve slipped by and around lots of it, unscathed. Until a few months…
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Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That
READ MORE: Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain’t Nobody Got Time for ThatIf you’re holding off on dating until you’ve lost the weight, bought better clothes, or are awaiting the arrival of a brilliant future version of yourself, you’ve set the worst goal ever. Because it’s not a goal. It’s a slippery slope defined by—what? An arbitrary number on the scale? The day your bangs grow out?…
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“I’m Going to Just Focus on Myself” & Other Lies
READ MORE: “I’m Going to Just Focus on Myself” & Other LiesIf you’re thinking of taking a break from dating “to focus on yourself,” you’re doing yourself a big disservice. You’re also lying. Why? Because this is little more than fear dressed as empowerment. Sure, it sounds like a well-thought out decision, and all spiritually evolved….which is why it often escapes without scrutiny. Not that you…
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Why You’ll Love Dating an Older Woman
READ MORE: Why You’ll Love Dating an Older WomanDating an older woman is hot. Ask any man who dates one. And as a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now-moreso even when I was that age. So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me…
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Fuck Fate & Date Like a Grown Up
READ MORE: Fuck Fate & Date Like a Grown UpYou want to believe that if you’re a good girl, the world will deliver unto you the Perfect Guy. That Fate or God is the ultimate matchmaker, pulling the strings of your life to make shit happen. “We’re soul mates!” is the rallying cry of emotional pygmies. Yeah, it’s time to grow the fuck up.…