Yup, it’s all your fault. So said that Washington Post headline that grabbed eyeballs and imploded brains nationwide when it stated that women would be a whole hell of a lot safer if they’d stop being hussies and settle down. I’ll tell you what: You’re safer single. Why? Because you’re more likely to be assaulted, raped, or…
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3 Ways the Law of Attraction is Fucking With Your Head
READ MORE: 3 Ways the Law of Attraction is Fucking With Your HeadYour thoughts are powerful things—they influence your behavior, your mood, your decisions. They determine what risks you take and which ones you don’t. But there’s one thing your thoughts cannot do: Manifest a perfect partner out of thin air. Intellectually, you know this. But a smaller part than you care to admit remains under the…
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Failure Is Brutal Even When It’s Small. So, Play Big.
READ MORE: Failure Is Brutal Even When It’s Small. So, Play Big.I suffered dual blows recently: a minor physical injury, and major blow to my self esteem. And for a while, I wasn’t sure which was worse. I pulled a tendon in my foot. Sure, it hurt like a railroad spike to the sole for a few days. I hobbled and mooned about, feeling sorry for…
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Screw Dating. Just Get Married (Yes I Said That)
READ MORE: Screw Dating. Just Get Married (Yes I Said That)If you’re dating and dating and you hate it and wish you could just get married already, well, maybe you should do that. Exactly that: Get married NOW, and date that person later. I got this nutty idea from Hellen Chen, who has given herself the moniker “matchmarker of the century,” thinks dating for years on…
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Don’t Get Mad at Data, Even If It Knows When You Should Be Married
READ MORE: Don’t Get Mad at Data, Even If It Knows When You Should Be MarriedA while back Time magazine announced its Facebook app that tells you when you should be married. It pissed a lot of people off. My question is, if you’re mad, why? What the app purports to do is mine your and your friend’s Facebook data (what they report, anyway), and plug it into graph that tells…
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How I Learned to (Literally) Play the Field: Getting Over My Fear of Football
READ MORE: How I Learned to (Literally) Play the Field: Getting Over My Fear of FootballI’m the world’s very worst sports fan. Meaning, I’m not a sports fan. I don’t follow it, and am so utterly ignorant about the whos and whats of sport it’s embarrassing. In fact, it’s been a concern of mine since, well, as long as I can remember, standing there swaying in the bleachers at Boston…
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How Stuff Gets Written: Insight Into the Creative Process
READ MORE: How Stuff Gets Written: Insight Into the Creative ProcessHow does stuff get written? Depends on who’s writing it. I know some writers obsess about their “process” but the biggest challenge for me is sitting my ass down and doing it. The one thing that makes a writer different from anyone else, including people who “think” they’re writers? Writers write. Period. This piece is…
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Your Age Is the Worst Excuse Ever
READ MORE: Your Age Is the Worst Excuse EverIf you’re not online dating, you’re not dating. Period. I meet and work with people all the time who want to “get back into dating,” but don’t know how. I ask, “Have you put your profile up online?” “Um, no.” Why? I’d guess that 80 percent of the time, they blame their age. No matter…
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Take Your Love Life Into the Woods (And I Don’t Just Mean Sex Outdoors)
READ MORE: Take Your Love Life Into the Woods (And I Don’t Just Mean Sex Outdoors)Is your love life the romantic equivalent of a suburb? All plotted and predictable bits of grass and shrubbery; quiet, controlled, and so boring you want to blow your brains out? Time to leave the suburbs—and head into the woods. This lesson comes to you by way of an unlikely source: Stephen Sondheim’s musical “Into…
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3 Things to Do and Not Do on Valentine’s Day
READ MORE: 3 Things to Do and Not Do on Valentine’s DayIt’s easy to pile on poor Valentine’s Day. And if it makes you feel any better, a rather small slice of the population is really psyched about it. If you’re single, chances are you roll your eyes, flip couples the bird, and want to go “eff yourself,” as this video advises, via Jezebel. If you’re…