Alexis Wolfer is the founding editor in chief of TheBeautyBean.com, a TV host, a certified health coach, and a real beauty activist. She is also the author of The Recipe For Radiance: Discover Beauty’s Best-Kept Secrets in Your Kitchen (Running Press, 2014) and the forthcoming Radiant Bride (Running Press, Dec 2015). I recently had Alexis…
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Don’t Give Up Just Because Everyone Else Wants It, Too
READ MORE: Don’t Give Up Just Because Everyone Else Wants It, TooYou are afraid to go for a thing. An opportunity, a job, a promotion. Your main reason is because, well, other people want it, too. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. Including the other day, when a young writer told me that she would love to pitch magazines with ideas she…
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The Business of Friendship: Meet Shasta Nelson, author of Friendships Don’t Just Happen
READ MORE: The Business of Friendship: Meet Shasta Nelson, author of Friendships Don’t Just HappenShasta Nelson is a relationship expert and the author of Friendships Don’t Just Happen. She is also the CEO of a female friendship-matching site called GirlFriendCircles.com, which she created after recognizing that many of her life coaching clients were having a hard time finding meaningful relationships with other women. I recently had Shasta on my show, Solopreneur on the Whatever…
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How the Boyfriend Excuse Undermines You
READ MORE: How the Boyfriend Excuse Undermines YouI’m going to confess to you, right here and now, that I have done feminism a grave disservice. And I’m a repeat offender. I have used the “I have a boyfriend” excuse to duck, dodge, or deflect unwanted attention. On many occasions. I said it when I was 100% single. And every time I’ve said those words to…
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Please Stop Asking This Question on Dates
READ MORE: Please Stop Asking This Question on DatesPlease, for the love of all things holy, stop asking the people you meet online if they’ve “had any luck” on the site. Stop, stop, stop. I realize that you think it’s just in the spirit of fair gamesmanship (“hey we’re all on this together,” and “I’m such a good sport about this”) but you…
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Ignore the Signs & Do It Anyway
READ MORE: Ignore the Signs & Do It AnywayI’ve historically been loathe to question, let alone buck, rules and regulations. If the sign says “must be this tall” and I’m not, I’m out. If it says you need these qualifications, and I don’t have them, I pass (this is a big mistake, by the way). And when something warns me that what lies ahead…
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Why Questions Are a Crutch (So Stop Asking Them)
READ MORE: Why Questions Are a Crutch (So Stop Asking Them)I teach people how to speak in the media, on stage, and to each other with power and conviction. And there’s one crutch in particular I train people right out of: Asking questions. Want to make a stronger impression? Make a statement. Ideally, one that could be argued or flat-out disagreed with. That’s when you know…
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How Your Computer Could Make a Better Boyfriend
READ MORE: How Your Computer Could Make a Better BoyfriendI love my Mac. Sometimes I take it to bed with me, it’s true. Though, things between Siri and me are somewhat strained (she still can’t remember my mother’s name? Really?). We’re all in the thrilling, flirty phase of modern tech. We’re intrigued, turned on, and yet there’s still a lot of awkward. We’re still getting…
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What Your Response to The Dress Says About You
READ MORE: What Your Response to The Dress Says About YouWell, I learned more about rods and cones this week than I’d planned to. But the most fascinating thing about #thedress controversy wasn’t just how wildly different our color perception is, but what the response to this bit of viral lunacy says about you. Essentially, this is a litmus test of tolerance and perspective. And I…
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How to Get Past Your Fear of Self-Promotion
READ MORE: How to Get Past Your Fear of Self-PromotionYou can’t run a business, even the smallest of businesses, if you can’t promote that business. And if you’re like many people, selling yourself can feel…icky. Like, so icky you don’t do it. This doesn’t bode well for your business. Sure, you think it’s pushy, rude, obnoxious. And it’s doubly hard because when you own…