I never considered myself a DIY kind of girl: I don’t hang my own shelves or put up preserves; I derive no greater joy from painting a wall or doing my taxes than paying a professional to get it done right the first time. But what I do have is a control problem, and letting…
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3 Ways to Own the Crap Out of Your Personal Brand
READ MORE: 3 Ways to Own the Crap Out of Your Personal BrandI help people become better presenters of their own ideas. It’s what I do. And the brunt of that work has less to do with technique (saying “um” too much for example) than it does psychology. Because once you feel more confident, it’s amazing how all the stuff that falls away. I know this for sure: What keeps…
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3 Things to Do (and Not Do) on Valentine’s Day
READ MORE: 3 Things to Do (and Not Do) on Valentine’s DayIt’s easy to pile on poor Valentine’s Day. And if it makes you feel any better, a rather small slice of the population is really psyched about it. If you’re single, chances are you roll your eyes, flip couples the bird. If you’re in a long-term relationship, maybe very long, this holiday makes you nostalgic…
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No-Strings Sex: What I Learned From Hooking Up with a Guy I Didn’t Like
READ MORE: No-Strings Sex: What I Learned From Hooking Up with a Guy I Didn’t LikeYou don’t have to be in a formal relationship to have sex. After all, it may be a while til you find someone you want to be in a formal relationship with, and chances are you’ll want to have sex sooner than that. Sex is a vitally important part of living–and it’s crazy to think…
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10 Things You Can Stop Doing Now
READ MORE: 10 Things You Can Stop Doing NowThere are a zillion and one things you have to do. And that I have to do. I can’t even think about it all. But I do believe knowing what NOT to do is just as important. And when I master that, I’ll let you know. Here are ten things to stop doing. It’s a…
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What Your Fear of Being Lied to Says About You
READ MORE: What Your Fear of Being Lied to Says About YouHow do I know if a guy is lying? Is there anything you can tell me about body language or other red flags? I want to be sure he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend, or an ex that may resurface in his life. I’m always very upfront and direct about asking, but I…
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Stop Calling Yourself a Freelancer
READ MORE: Stop Calling Yourself a FreelancerIf you work for yourself, you can call yourself whatever you want: an entrepreneur, a solopreneur, creative professional. But there’s one word I want you to stop using: Freelancer. Take it off your business card, your website, stop referring to yourself that way. Why? Because freelance is low-rent. A “freelancer” is someone a company calls…
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Unfriend Your Ex (Especially If You Want Him Back)
READ MORE: Unfriend Your Ex (Especially If You Want Him Back)When my boyfriend told me, just shy of our one-year anniversary, that he didn’t want a girlfriend anymore, I was still digesting my savory pork belly dish and $12 cocktail. This candlelit dinner had seemed to be to signal things were on the upswing. I was wrong. This wasn’t a let’s-try-again reunion dinner; It was…
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How to Get Over Your Ex (Client)
READ MORE: How to Get Over Your Ex (Client)No one likes being dumped, passed on, or told they’re “not a fit.” And breaking up with someone is no party either. Unless you’re a raving sadist, causing pain or discomfort in someone else feels bad, too. And just as anyone who falls in love may reach a teary end, anyone who seeks to get…
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Why I’m Glad The Interview Sucked—and You Should Be, Too
READ MORE: Why I’m Glad The Interview Sucked—and You Should Be, TooI wasn’t the least bit disappointed with The Interview. I expected it to kinda suck, and I loved that it did. It is exactly what you think it is: A dopey buddy film with lots of asshole jokes. When I laughed, which I did, I laughed with a simple, stupid glee. And the fact that…