If you’re dating and dating and you hate it and wish you could just get married already, well, maybe you should do that. Exactly that: Get married NOW, and date that person later. I got this nutty idea from Hellen Chen, who has given herself the moniker “matchmarker of the century,” thinks dating for years on…
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Don’t Get Mad at Data, Even If It Knows When You Should Be Married
READ MORE: Don’t Get Mad at Data, Even If It Knows When You Should Be MarriedA while back Time magazine announced its Facebook app that tells you when you should be married. It pissed a lot of people off. My question is, if you’re mad, why? What the app purports to do is mine your and your friend’s Facebook data (what they report, anyway), and plug it into graph that tells…
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How I Learned to (Literally) Play the Field: Getting Over My Fear of Football
READ MORE: How I Learned to (Literally) Play the Field: Getting Over My Fear of FootballI’m the world’s very worst sports fan. Meaning, I’m not a sports fan. I don’t follow it, and am so utterly ignorant about the whos and whats of sport it’s embarrassing. In fact, it’s been a concern of mine since, well, as long as I can remember, standing there swaying in the bleachers at Boston…
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Your Age Is the Worst Excuse Ever
READ MORE: Your Age Is the Worst Excuse EverIf you’re not online dating, you’re not dating. Period. I meet and work with people all the time who want to “get back into dating,” but don’t know how. I ask, “Have you put your profile up online?” “Um, no.” Why? I’d guess that 80 percent of the time, they blame their age. No matter…
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Take Your Love Life Into the Woods (And I Don’t Just Mean Sex Outdoors)
READ MORE: Take Your Love Life Into the Woods (And I Don’t Just Mean Sex Outdoors)Is your love life the romantic equivalent of a suburb? All plotted and predictable bits of grass and shrubbery; quiet, controlled, and so boring you want to blow your brains out? Time to leave the suburbs—and head into the woods. This lesson comes to you by way of an unlikely source: Stephen Sondheim’s musical “Into…
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3 Things to Do and Not Do on Valentine’s Day
READ MORE: 3 Things to Do and Not Do on Valentine’s DayIt’s easy to pile on poor Valentine’s Day. And if it makes you feel any better, a rather small slice of the population is really psyched about it. If you’re single, chances are you roll your eyes, flip couples the bird, and want to go “eff yourself,” as this video advises, via Jezebel. If you’re…
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Your Heartache Does Not Make You Interesting (It’s a Drag)
READ MORE: Your Heartache Does Not Make You Interesting (It’s a Drag)Seems like a no-brainer, but it’s a bad idea to point out your flaws on a first date. Or a second date. Or on your dating profile. Or, when you’re on The Bachelor. Despite what you may think, your pain does not make you interesting, or attractive. And recounting your past hurts makes you a…
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“I Had Fun, But…”: Why To Let Her Off the Hook
READ MORE: “I Had Fun, But…”: Why To Let Her Off the HookQ. I just suffered some serious dating whiplash: I met a girl, and we went on three dates. First date – short but great, easy and fun. Second date – meal and cinema, easy and fun, hand holding and kissing. Third date – drinks and fun, lots of chatting, lots of kissing. 12 hours later, the next morning –…
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I’m Terri, and I’m a Raving Perfectionist
READ MORE: I’m Terri, and I’m a Raving PerfectionistI haven’t written a blog in weeks. Why? Because I was: Busy. Reading. Working on proposals. Getting organized. Watching “Orange is the New Black.” This is a lie. Of course, I was doing those things. But that’s not why I haven’t blogged. Not even close. The truth is that I’m a fucking perfectionist. The very…
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I Was Blindsided After Two Dates. WTF?
READ MORE: I Was Blindsided After Two Dates. WTF?Q. I went on two dates with a girl, both of which were really fun, so I asked her out again. And out of the blue, I get a text message from her declining, saying that she appreciates the offer but is “feeling we’re not really compatible for the long term.” WTF? Of course, I…