There’s no shame in being lonely. That’s what friendship expert (and friend!) Shasta Nelson, founder of GirlfriendCircles, said to a group of women at the launch of her second book, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness. And yet, the word “lonely” itself is scary. Even those who love and treasure their solitude (um, me)…
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Why Online Dating Is So Much Better Now (Kind of)
READ MORE: Why Online Dating Is So Much Better Now (Kind of)I’ve recently re-entered the online dating pool, and surprise surprise, it’s just as much a hot mess as it was last time I was here. The bare torsos, the cringeworthy cliches, the fevered search for the next quick hookup. But something has changed. The process has gone from a desktop portal of long-winded applications and essay…
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How the Boyfriend Excuse Undermines You
READ MORE: How the Boyfriend Excuse Undermines YouI’m going to confess to you, right here and now, that I have done feminism a grave disservice. And I’m a repeat offender. I have used the “I have a boyfriend” excuse to duck, dodge, or deflect unwanted attention. On many occasions. I said it when I was 100% single. And every time I’ve said those words to…
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Please Stop Asking This Question on Dates
READ MORE: Please Stop Asking This Question on DatesPlease, for the love of all things holy, stop asking the people you meet online if they’ve “had any luck” on the site. Stop, stop, stop. I realize that you think it’s just in the spirit of fair gamesmanship (“hey we’re all on this together,” and “I’m such a good sport about this”) but you…
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How Your Computer Could Make a Better Boyfriend
READ MORE: How Your Computer Could Make a Better BoyfriendI love my Mac. Sometimes I take it to bed with me, it’s true. Though, things between Siri and me are somewhat strained (she still can’t remember my mother’s name? Really?). We’re all in the thrilling, flirty phase of modern tech. We’re intrigued, turned on, and yet there’s still a lot of awkward. We’re still getting…
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3 Things to Do (and Not Do) on Valentine’s Day
READ MORE: 3 Things to Do (and Not Do) on Valentine’s DayIt’s easy to pile on poor Valentine’s Day. And if it makes you feel any better, a rather small slice of the population is really psyched about it. If you’re single, chances are you roll your eyes, flip couples the bird. If you’re in a long-term relationship, maybe very long, this holiday makes you nostalgic…
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Unfriend Your Ex (Especially If You Want Him Back)
READ MORE: Unfriend Your Ex (Especially If You Want Him Back)When my boyfriend told me, just shy of our one-year anniversary, that he didn’t want a girlfriend anymore, I was still digesting my savory pork belly dish and $12 cocktail. This candlelit dinner had seemed to be to signal things were on the upswing. I was wrong. This wasn’t a let’s-try-again reunion dinner; It was…
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OMG Another Woman Just Married Herself. Make It Stop!
READ MORE: OMG Another Woman Just Married Herself. Make It Stop!Oh no. Another woman just went and married herself. Haven’t we gone over this? Oh wait, we have. I blogged about it and even went on Anderson Cooper a few years back to tell the “bride” she was full of it. I get it: You want to empower yourself and commit to your wellbeing, to…
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Help! My Boyfriend Wants to Be Young & Live His Life. Make Him Stop!
READ MORE: Help! My Boyfriend Wants to Be Young & Live His Life. Make Him Stop!HELP! I am a 20 year old girl in university. My boyfriend of 5 months says he doesn’t want to get serious. He says we’re not compatible because he’s a Pisces and I’m a Gemini. He might go to England next year and he says he doesn’t believe in long distance relationships. He doesn’t have time for…
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Bad Story of the Week: Needy Guy Strangles Relationship
READ MORE: Bad Story of the Week: Needy Guy Strangles RelationshipThe one post I get more feedback on than almost any other is this one: hitting the brakes on the relationship talk. Because we’ve all had to check ourselves on this, since we all have the urge to just “know” what’s going on—often, far too early in a relationship. And the problem is that when…