There’s no shame in being lonely. That’s what friendship expert (and friend!) Shasta Nelson, founder of GirlfriendCircles, said to a group of women at the launch of her second book, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness. And yet, the word “lonely” itself is scary. Even those who love and treasure their solitude (um, me)…

I’ve recently re-entered the online dating pool, and surprise surprise, it’s just as much a hot mess as it was last time I was here. The bare torsos, the cringeworthy cliches, the fevered search for the next quick hookup. But something has changed. The process has gone from a desktop portal of long-winded applications and essay…

I’m going to confess to you, right here and now, that I have done feminism a grave disservice. And I’m a repeat offender. I have used the “I have a boyfriend” excuse to duck, dodge, or deflect unwanted attention. On many occasions. I said it when I was 100% single. And every time I’ve said those words to…

Please, for the love of all things holy, stop asking the people you meet online if they’ve “had any luck” on the site. Stop, stop, stop. I realize that you think it’s just in the spirit of fair gamesmanship (“hey we’re all on this together,” and “I’m such a good sport about this”) but you…

I love my Mac. Sometimes I take it to bed with me, it’s true. Though, things between Siri and me are somewhat strained (she still can’t remember my mother’s name? Really?). We’re all in the thrilling, flirty phase of modern tech. We’re intrigued, turned on, and yet there’s still a lot of awkward. We’re still getting…

It’s easy to pile on poor Valentine’s Day. And if it makes you feel any better, a rather small slice of the population is really psyched about it. If you’re single, chances are you roll your eyes, flip couples the bird. If you’re in a long-term relationship, maybe very long, this holiday makes you nostalgic…

When my boyfriend told me, just shy of our one-year anniversary, that he didn’t want a girlfriend anymore, I was still digesting my savory pork belly dish and $12 cocktail. This candlelit dinner had seemed to be to signal things were on the upswing. I was wrong. This wasn’t a let’s-try-again reunion dinner; It was…

Oh no. Another woman just went and married herself. Haven’t we gone over this? Oh wait, we have. I blogged about it and even went on Anderson Cooper a few years back to tell the “bride” she was full of it. I get it: You want to empower yourself and commit to your wellbeing, to…