HELP! I am a 20 year old girl in university. My boyfriend of 5 months says he doesn’t want to get serious. He says we’re not compatible because he’s a Pisces and I’m a Gemini. He might go to England next year and he says he doesn’t believe in long distance relationships. He doesn’t have time for…

The one post I get more feedback on than almost any other is this one: hitting the brakes on the relationship talk. Because we’ve all had to check ourselves on this, since we all have the urge to just “know” what’s going on—often, far too early in a relationship. And the problem is that when…

Your thoughts are powerful things—they influence your behavior, your mood, your decisions. They determine what risks you take and which ones you don’t. But there’s one thing your thoughts cannot do: Manifest a perfect partner out of thin air. Intellectually, you know this. But a smaller part than you care to admit remains under the…

If you’re not online dating, you’re not dating. Period. I meet and work with people all the time who want to “get back into dating,” but don’t know how. I ask, “Have you put your profile up online?” “Um, no.” Why? I’d guess that 80 percent of the time, they blame their age. No matter…

Is your love life the romantic equivalent of a suburb? All plotted and predictable bits of grass and shrubbery; quiet, controlled, and so boring you want to blow your brains out? Time to leave the suburbs—and head into the woods. This lesson comes to you by way of an unlikely source: Stephen Sondheim’s musical “Into…

It’s easy to pile on poor Valentine’s Day. And if it makes you feel any better, a rather small slice of the population is really psyched about it. If you’re single, chances are you roll your eyes, flip couples the bird, and want to go “eff yourself,” as this video advises, via Jezebel. If you’re…

So you think it’s time to have The Talk. You like each other, and you want to know the deal. You want to know where things stand. Don’t do it. In fact, delay that conversation as long as you possibly can, especially when you’ve just started dating. My rule of thumb is that you can…

Seems like a no-brainer, but it’s a bad idea to point out your flaws on a first date. Or a second date. Or on your dating profile. Or, when you’re on The Bachelor. Despite what you may think, your pain does not make you interesting, or attractive. And recounting your past hurts makes you a…