Q. After dating this guy for a month, I asked him where we stood, and he said somewhere between casual and exclusive. I was okay with that, but after three months I called it off. I wanted more. Then I started initiating hangouts, and sometimes we had sex. I thought if I reminded him of…
Blog
-
If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for Them
READ MORE: If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for ThemSince I’ve been single, which hasn’t been all that long, I’ve been on three dates. And would you believe two of the three were rocking a hat. Two! And not a hat meant to keep your head warm, nor a hipster/barista’s “I didn’t shower” knit cap, mind you. But a gentleman’s hat. And while any…
-
OMG. I Agree with Joel Osteen: Stop Sitting On Your Ass
READ MORE: OMG. I Agree with Joel Osteen: Stop Sitting On Your AssJoel Osteen wants me to be obedient. That’s what he tells the ginormous congregation at Lakewood Church, and me, when I got caught in his magnetic Christian trance after Meet the Press. But not just any kind of obedient. Boldly obedient. “You’re waiting on God,” he says, “but God’s waiting on you.” Osteen looks like he was…
-
Man Earns Praise for Not Being A Selfish Prick
READ MORE: Man Earns Praise for Not Being A Selfish PrickThe post was called “Marriage Is Not For You” and it’s gotten 24 million views and counting. 24 million. What sounded like it might be an edgy, controversial post ended up doing little more than underscore sentimental, conventional values that harken back to, as the author says, pre-Walmart days and the pesky, modern demand for satisfaction (imagine that).…
-
Are You F’n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee Incident
READ MORE: Are You F’n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee IncidentLiving in New York City, you’re going to get a heaping dose of crazy on an almost daily basis. It’s just how it is. It’s inconvenient, annoying, but it usually doesn’t get violent–especially if you don’t engage. For the past three years, I’ve slipped by and around lots of it, unscathed. Until a few months…
-
How You Met Doesn’t Fucking Matter
READ MORE: How You Met Doesn’t Fucking MatterIn his recent post on The Date Report, Ryan Dodge pokes fun at the tendency every couple feels to schtick-up their how-we-met story. He admits that his first date with his current girlfriend was forgettable at best. He asked her out again because she was hot, and why not. But he certainly didn’t stumble out of that…
-
Get Rejected More (You’re Not Doing It Enough)
READ MORE: Get Rejected More (You’re Not Doing It Enough)If you’re weeping into a glass of sherry and wondering why the world is so cruel and your life is so loveless, well, you have no one to blame but yourself. Yes, I said that. Because if you’re like a lot of women, you wait. And wait. You think you’re enlightened and independent, yet there…
-
3 Assumptions Keeping You Seriously Stuck
READ MORE: 3 Assumptions Keeping You Seriously StuckYou’ve got lots of reasons why you’re not dating or meeting anyone new. And they all begin with the assumptions you make about yourself, other people, and the future. All of which are incorrect. Here are the three things you’re sure you’re right about, that you’re not: 1. You assume something’s wrong with you. There’s actually…
-
Why Making New Friends Is Critical to Your Love Life
READ MORE: Why Making New Friends Is Critical to Your Love LifeMeeting new friends isn’t all that different from dating: You meet, and some kind of magic happens. You’re drawn to each other, attracted even. Not in a creepy way. But in a very real way. You want to see her, hang out, get to know her. You want her in your life. It’s not unlike…
-
Falling Short of Your Resolutions? 3 Ways You’re Going Wrong
READ MORE: Falling Short of Your Resolutions? 3 Ways You’re Going WrongI’d like to welcome guest blogger and friend Brett Blumenthal, a wellness expert and coach, and bestselling author of A Whole New You: Six Steps to Ignite Change for Your Best Life (Dec 2012) 52 Small Changes: One Year to a Happier, Healthier You (Jan 2012). Read more from Brett at sheerbalance.com. Here, Brett shares…