Q. I went on two dates with a girl, both of which were really fun, so I asked her out again. And out of the blue, I get a text message from her declining, saying that she appreciates the offer but is “feeling we’re not really compatible for the long term.” WTF? Of course, I…
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If I Play Hard to Get, Will He Come Around?
READ MORE: If I Play Hard to Get, Will He Come Around?Q. After dating this guy for a month, I asked him where we stood, and he said somewhere between casual and exclusive. I was okay with that, but after three months I called it off. I wanted more. Then I started initiating hangouts, and sometimes we had sex. I thought if I reminded him of…
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If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for Them
READ MORE: If You Want Your Dates to Be More Eventful, Start Dressing for ThemSince I’ve been single, which hasn’t been all that long, I’ve been on three dates. And would you believe two of the three were rocking a hat. Two! And not a hat meant to keep your head warm, nor a hipster/barista’s “I didn’t shower” knit cap, mind you. But a gentleman’s hat. And while any…
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OMG. I Agree with Joel Osteen: Stop Sitting On Your Ass
READ MORE: OMG. I Agree with Joel Osteen: Stop Sitting On Your AssJoel Osteen wants me to be obedient. That’s what he tells the ginormous congregation at Lakewood Church, and me, when I got caught in his magnetic Christian trance after Meet the Press. But not just any kind of obedient. Boldly obedient. “You’re waiting on God,” he says, “but God’s waiting on you.” Osteen looks like he was…
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Man Earns Praise for Not Being A Selfish Prick
READ MORE: Man Earns Praise for Not Being A Selfish PrickThe post was called “Marriage Is Not For You” and it’s gotten 24 million views and counting. 24 million. What sounded like it might be an edgy, controversial post ended up doing little more than underscore sentimental, conventional values that harken back to, as the author says, pre-Walmart days and the pesky, modern demand for satisfaction (imagine that).…
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Adopt a Closed (Bathroom) Door Policy
READ MORE: Adopt a Closed (Bathroom) Door PolicyWhen is it ok to leave the door open when you’re on the toilet? The answer is….Never. Never, ever, ever. You hear me? My friend sent along this humorous piece on Jezebel (and when are they not humorous?) in which the author maps the long, downward spiral of physical intimacy, starting with Level 5: Stepford…
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The One Thing You Should Not Do After a Fight
READ MORE: The One Thing You Should Not Do After a FightYou’ve had a skirmish. A lover’s quarrel. A knock-down, drag-out fight. And so understandably, you’re upset. The one thing you must not do: Soothe yourself. That’s right. And I heard it straight from the source of seasoned psychologist Dr. Gail Gross. Today. She told me over tea while sketching out the diagram on a piece…
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You’re Not Broken. You’re Just Not Married. (There’s a Difference.)
READ MORE: You’re Not Broken. You’re Just Not Married. (There’s a Difference.)But you’re such a sweet girl. Why aren’t you married yet?” Ugh. If you’re a single woman like me, I’m sure you’ve heard this refrain before. (Replace “sweet” with: fun, cool, smart, pretty, etc–all the same thing.) I have to admit I’ve puzzled over this for a while myself. I’ve thought, God, not only am…
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Hook Ups Will Leave You Hungry
READ MORE: Hook Ups Will Leave You HungryMany young women think that hook ups with dudes they can’t stand sober is a great way to save time and energy while staying focused on career goals. Fact is, hooking up will leave you hungry–especially if it’s with a guy you wouldn’t care to share a meal with. Kate Taylor’s piece in the New…
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3 Worst Reasons to Stay in Your Dead-End Relationship
READ MORE: 3 Worst Reasons to Stay in Your Dead-End RelationshipThere’s one thing holding you back from a fulfilling, fun, exciting new relationship. Your old relationship. I know, I know. You care(d) about this person a lot, and you haven’t found the right time or opportunity to do the breaking up. Or maybe you feel you can’t, for some reason. If you know the relationship…