Romantic getaways have their place. But let me ask you this: When’s the last time you actually went away without him for a bit? If you haven’t booked a vacation solo or with friends, you need to do that. Plan to be away, for at least a weekend, if not a week or more. Why?…
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Are You F’n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee Incident
READ MORE: Are You F’n Kidding Me? The Iced Coffee IncidentLiving in New York City, you’re going to get a heaping dose of crazy on an almost daily basis. It’s just how it is. It’s inconvenient, annoying, but it usually doesn’t get violent–especially if you don’t engage. For the past three years, I’ve slipped by and around lots of it, unscathed. Until a few months…
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Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That
READ MORE: Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain’t Nobody Got Time for ThatIf you’re holding off on dating until you’ve lost the weight, bought better clothes, or are awaiting the arrival of a brilliant future version of yourself, you’ve set the worst goal ever. Because it’s not a goal. It’s a slippery slope defined by—what? An arbitrary number on the scale? The day your bangs grow out?…
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“I’m Going to Just Focus on Myself” & Other Lies
READ MORE: “I’m Going to Just Focus on Myself” & Other LiesIf you’re thinking of taking a break from dating “to focus on yourself,” you’re doing yourself a big disservice. You’re also lying. Why? Because this is little more than fear dressed as empowerment. Sure, it sounds like a well-thought out decision, and all spiritually evolved….which is why it often escapes without scrutiny. Not that you…
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Why You’ll Love Dating an Older Woman
READ MORE: Why You’ll Love Dating an Older WomanDating an older woman is hot. Ask any man who dates one. And as a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now-moreso even when I was that age. So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me…
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Fuck Fate & Date Like a Grown Up
READ MORE: Fuck Fate & Date Like a Grown UpYou want to believe that if you’re a good girl, the world will deliver unto you the Perfect Guy. That Fate or God is the ultimate matchmaker, pulling the strings of your life to make shit happen. “We’re soul mates!” is the rallying cry of emotional pygmies. Yeah, it’s time to grow the fuck up.…
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How You Met Doesn’t Fucking Matter
READ MORE: How You Met Doesn’t Fucking MatterIn his recent post on The Date Report, Ryan Dodge pokes fun at the tendency every couple feels to schtick-up their how-we-met story. He admits that his first date with his current girlfriend was forgettable at best. He asked her out again because she was hot, and why not. But he certainly didn’t stumble out of that…
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Get Rejected More (You’re Not Doing It Enough)
READ MORE: Get Rejected More (You’re Not Doing It Enough)If you’re weeping into a glass of sherry and wondering why the world is so cruel and your life is so loveless, well, you have no one to blame but yourself. Yes, I said that. Because if you’re like a lot of women, you wait. And wait. You think you’re enlightened and independent, yet there…
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3 Assumptions Keeping You Seriously Stuck
READ MORE: 3 Assumptions Keeping You Seriously StuckYou’ve got lots of reasons why you’re not dating or meeting anyone new. And they all begin with the assumptions you make about yourself, other people, and the future. All of which are incorrect. Here are the three things you’re sure you’re right about, that you’re not: 1. You assume something’s wrong with you. There’s actually…
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Why Making New Friends Is Critical to Your Love Life
READ MORE: Why Making New Friends Is Critical to Your Love LifeMeeting new friends isn’t all that different from dating: You meet, and some kind of magic happens. You’re drawn to each other, attracted even. Not in a creepy way. But in a very real way. You want to see her, hang out, get to know her. You want her in your life. It’s not unlike…