What NOT to Do In Front of a Crowd: Lessons from Blogworld New Media Expo

Want to know what you shouldn’t do when you’re asked to speak at a conference? I will tell you. I recently attended the BlogWorld & New Media Expo a few weeks ago (newly named, New Media Expo). And while there were plenty of astute and savvy new media experts, there were perhaps just as many […]


Why You Shouldn’t Aspire to Date–or Be–Nice

One of my coaching clients said to me recently, “I just want to find a nice guy.” I had to call bullshit on her. Especially since she had just finished telling me that the most significant relationship of her adult life was this sexy but slippery beast of a man whom she couldn’t say no […]


Um, Do You See a Ring On This Finger?

There is a great myth out there being sold wholesale to single people: You’re incomplete if you do not have a partner. There’s also the time sensitive version: You’re incomplete–and a failure–if you do not have a partner by age X. I’ve got news for you, people. This is complete and utter bullshit. Where does […]

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Don’t Marry Yourself. Period.

There once was a woman from Fargo who married herself. It’s true. She’s not the only one, either. But let’s stick with Nadine, who was featured on the Anderson Cooper show a while back. She did what she thinks was a cute, quirky thing that I’m sure she knew would get a lot of attention, […]


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Smoothies Made Simple: Put Stuff in a Blender and Drink It

Smoothies are huge. Easy to see why. How else can you get down several servings of fruits and veggies first thing in the am? I record these tips for Martha radio on Sirius XM, and what’s the one that elicited emails across the country? The Drink Your Greens tip–about how to make a green smoothie. […]


Indulge in Some Mommy Porn: Fifty Shades of Grey

No, I’m not kidding. Why not? Reading some juicy bits may be the best decision you make all day. In fact, I’m sure of it. Not only is the sexy series by British mum E.L. James on fire, it’s just plain fun. It’ll get all pistons firing in the biggest sexual organ of all: Your […]


What the Today Show Missed (and I Love) About Living Alone

So, not too long ago (a few weeks?), I was featured on the Today show for a piece on the joys of living alone.  I’ve been living that way for about a decade, and loving it–and I’m certainly not alone in that respect. One of the experts showcased for this segment was sociologist Eric Klinenberg, who […]

The One Thing You Should Not Do After a Fight

You've had a skirmish. A lover's quarrel. A knock-down, drag-out fight. And so understandably, you're upset. The one thing you must not do: Soothe yourself. That's right. And I heard it straight from the source of seasoned psychologist Dr. Gail…

You're Not Broken. You're Just Not Married. (There's a Difference.)

But you're such a sweet girl. Why aren't you married yet?" Ugh. If you're a single woman like me, I'm sure you've heard this refrain before. (Replace "sweet" with: fun, cool, smart, pretty, etc--all the same thing.) I have to admit I've puzzled…

Instant Stress Relief: When You Realize No One Notices or Cares

A week or so ago, I had four inches cut off my hair. Just like that. I was itching for a change. When the stylist asked me if I was "attached to the length," I said no, and waved her off in my best impression of the most well-adjusted woman…

Pull Yourself Together: Get a New Bra

When I feel like I'm all over the place, literally and figuratively, I know it's time to get a new bra. Maybe two. I'm serious. Don't overlook this vital piece of your wardrobe--though I'm guessing you do, since, like me, you probably get…

Kill Your Wish List: Stop Telling Online Daters Who They Should Be

An old friend of mine moved back to New York and before he found an apartment, the guy has dates out the wazoo. Here's a man who knows how to make it happen. You know how? He asks. He asks a lot of people. He shows interest in lots of ladies…

Don't Lose Focus on the Details (or, If You Do, Get New Glasses)

I don't look or feel that much different than I did two, five, even ten years ago. In fact, I look better now, thanks to having grown out some questionable haircuts and dropped gluten from my diet. Certainly, no worse for the wear. I still get…