So you read the NYT piece The End of Courtship, and it’s hitting a nerve: OMG! Dating is dead! I knew it! I’ll never find anyone! If your next step was going to be to email me the article with a series of exasperated question marks, don’t bother, because a dozen people already beat you to […]

Jury duty should be humbling: You must do your civic duty, after all. You are reminded that, unfortunately, no, you do not have a choice in the matter. It’s one of the few snags of living with freedom and justice for all–someone’s gotta serve on the jury. Period. You’re reminded that you don’t live in […]

When you find out a guy has been married before, do you hit the brakes? Worry that he may have too much…baggage? I tell you what: You should be far more afraid of the dudes with zero baggage. I personally have never trusted someone who travels a little too light. You want a real grown-up […]

You’ve spotted him. He’s the one you want and there’s no denying it. What do you do–stand coyly by and hope he notices you, chooses you, initiates? You can. But the women with a little hustle are going to beat you to it. I will beat you to it. I’m not telling you you have […]

I cried like a bitch at the end of The Sessions. This was not a single tear or two. This was full-on heaving, both hands to your head and give it up in a snobby, snotty fit. If you saw the movie, you know why. Because it’s incredibly fucking moving. Because you fall in love […]

Why? Because I’ve ruined a few. And not just Christmas–pick any holiday, really. It happens the same way every time: I drive up with the best of intentions, sipping coffee on the Merritt Parkway, indulging in caffeinated visions of familial joy. I think, “I’m going to be really nice this time. And fun. And if […]

If you turn your nose up at online dating, or love to complain about how “it doesn’t work,” I have a suggestion: Replace the term “online dating” with “my love life” and you’ll have a fairly accurate take on what’s holding you back in the relationships department. Look, I know why you’re afraid: You think […]

You have this idea about dating. And it’s wrong. Actually, you have a lot of ideas, presumptions, assumptions, and suspicions about dating, and they’re the things that hold you back and make dating miserable. One of my favorites is this one: “Dating takes too much effort.” I’m sorry—wha? Anything worth doing requires effort. Sure, dating […]

#TBT: "Sex Before Marriage? Not Me" (January 1987)

So, this is my new tribute to #TBT: Journal entries from yesteryear, carefully hand selected and edited only for length--everything else is as it was written then. Names have been changed and will be from here on in. In this episode, the…

Why You Owe Joan Rivers More Than You Think

I owe Joan Rivers a debt of gratitude. And if you're in possession of a vagina, you owe her one, too. Because she's done more for women—not just women in comedy, but women in general—than most will realize, or even care to admit. Maybe…

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Help! My Boyfriend Wants to Be Young & Live His Life. Make Him Stop!

HELP! I am a 20 year old girl in university. My boyfriend of 5 months says he doesn’t want to get serious. He says we're not compatible because he's a Pisces and I'm a Gemini. He might go to England next year and he says he doesn’t believe…

Bad Story of the Week: Needy Guy Strangles Relationship

The one post I get more feedback on than almost any other is this one: hitting the brakes on the relationship talk. Because we've all had to check ourselves on this, since we all have the urge to just "know" what's going on—often, far…

You're Safer Single: Why Marriage Can't Protect Anyone (Including Itself)

Yup, it's all your fault. So said that Washington Post headline that grabbed eyeballs and imploded brains nationwide when it stated that women would be a whole hell of a lot safer if they'd stop being hussies and settle down. I'll…