What’s going on in your world? Two big things this week in mine: Wed (the 9th) is my birthday, and I’m also moving. Did I tell you that? Not far—about four blocks from where I currently live on the Upper West Side. My requirements were that I didn’t want to have to change dry cleaners, […]

If you had asked me last week if I’d be moved by a closing performance by Queen at the Global Citizen Festival in Central Park, I’d say, umm, probably not.  But then on Thursday, I watched Bohemian Rhapsody, and that changed everything.  Have you seen the movie? You kinda can’t take your eyes off Rami […]

There’s a song by recording artist and folk singer Mary Gauthier that guts me, every time.  It’s called “Mercy Now,” and the song moves, achingly, through concentric circles of forgiveness: Starting with her father, who could use some mercy now…and ending with her country, which could most definitely use some mercy now. (Lord have mercy, […]

I was in Whole Foods the other day, browsing the gluten-free cookie aisle, and I heard this little voice pipe up.  “Hi!”  And there, parked in a stroller by the almond milk, was an adorable baby girl, waving emphatically at me.  “Hi! Hi!” “Well hello there,” I said, delighted, walking over. “What’s your name?”  And […]

My friend Paula Rizzo looks like a sweet little cat.  She’s neat and orderly and totally adorable, a petite, pretty brunette with a laugh like a bell.  But don’t be fooled. Inside that kitten facade, the girl is a pit bull.  She cut her teeth in newsrooms (which are not for the faint of heart) […]

Ever go on a church retreat? I did.  Antioch Weekend at Our Lady of the Blessed Sacrament in Roseland, New Jersey. In the 80s. You got to wear your Jordache jeans and sleep over at host houses and hang out with kids you didn’t know (read: boys you didn’t know) from public school. Hot.  We […]

Ever hear of a woman named Brenda Ueland?  She was before your time, and mine. And she did not mince words.  “I hate orthodox criticism,” she wrote,  “…small niggling, fussy-mussy criticism, which thinks it can improve people by telling them where they are wrong, and results only in putting them in straitjackets of hesitancy and […]

OK here’s what happened: A woman emailed me recently and said she wanted help creating a TEDx talk. I said sure. In fact, I could do her one better—I invited her to join me for the Pop-Up Story Salon in Manhattan that week. This would give her the chance to roll up her sleeves and […]

One thing I'm NOT doing in 2020

Like you, I’ve made some sacrifices to the New Year gods—more vegetables, a month without booze. But one of the most important resolutions I’ve made for 2020 this: To stop selling shit on Craigslist. Why? Why’s that so bad?…

A holiday movie with a hidden message about career

​I just watched the new animated Netflix movie Klaus with some friends the other night, and if it's not in your holiday movie queue, it should be. Not just because it's cute and well done. But because there's a hidden and profound message…

Calling things "hard" is easy

After years of working on a book, I’m finally shopping around a proposal. And while I’m only a few weeks into this first leg of the publishing journey, I can tell you already it is not for the faint of heart. Of course, I went into…

You're a lot like Orpheus

Have you seen Hadestown? The award winning Broadway show is a brilliant, modern retelling of the Greek myth of Orpheus and Eurydice. (And yes, it will blow you away.) Here’s the quick and dirty: Orpheus and Eurydice fall in love. …

Here's what you're doing right (says almost no one)

When’s the last time someone pointed out what you were doing right? Not just “good job.” I mean, specifically and in detail something you did really, really well. Ok. And when’s the last time someone pointed out an error you made,…

What you did well

When’s the last time someone pointed out what you were doing right? Not just “good job.” I mean, specifically and in detail something you did really, really well. Ok. And when’s the last time someone pointed out an error you made,…